Some good news and our plans for the day

Here's some good news for today. Both boys made it to school, without any problems. Elliott was not thrilled but he cooperated 100% and I'm so thankful for that. The plan for the day is pretty simple. I have to pick Elliott up from school a little before noon, drop Gavin off with my Mom and head up to Akron Children's Hospital. Elliott has a followup in the behavioral health clinic. They are helping manage his depression, as well as handling all his medications for it. They're absolutely fantastic and I'm so appreciative for all they do. I promised Elliott that I would take him to lunch afterwards. He gets very anxious about any and all doctor appointments. As a result, he won't eat until after it's over. So, that's…

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Let’s get a couple of f*cking things straight right now

I need to make a couple things very clear. When I said that I would not tolerate any negative comments pertaining to my family's current situation, I meant it. If you leave a negative comment, I will block you from leaving any further comments. I haven't asked for anyone's opinion, judgments, rude comments or marriage advice. I've banned two people today as a result of comments like this. One was so bad that it would devastate my kids if they ever read it. It's dick move and it's very upsetting. More importantly, I wanted to say a truly heartfelt thank you to the 99.999% of you who are respecting my wishes. Thank you so much for your kind words, love and support. Thank you for asking how the kids are…

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I’m trying to emotionally prepare myself for what’s ahead of me today

It's going to be a busy day. You already know the kids are home from school because they're struggling a great deal right now. That is taking up the bulk of my morning.. Around noon, I'm taking the kids to my parents house, so I can run a few errands. I have some difficult but necessary things I must undertake this afternoon and I'm not looking forward to any of them. There several divorce related things I must take care of today, and that's not going to be easy. Coming to terms with this is going to be a process that takes time. I wasn't prepared for any of this in the least and so I'm still dealing with the shock. There are things I will talk about and things…

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I don’t know what I’m supposed to do anymore

We had a pretty decent night last night. I'm trying to get us into a routine because the more structure I can provide for my kids, the better off they're going to be. Kids with Autism thrive on structure, routine and predictability. At the moment, their lives are chaos and that's making a bad situation worse. Both Elliott and Emmett were struggling this morning, especially Elliott. Elliott's a mess right now and had a difficult time sleeping because he was so worried about school today. I don't know what the right thing to do here is and all I can do is that I feel is best in the moment. It's for that reason, I kept the kids home today. Having said that, there's a plan in place to help…

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I thought I’d share some important goals I’ve set for myself as we rebuild our lives

Things have been a bit heavy lately and so I thought I would change things up a bit and talk about some of the goals I'm setting for myself going forward. First and foremost, my main goal is to keep the kids above water until they can swim on their own. That goes without saying, but I said it anyway. I want to make our home as comfortable and accessible for them as I possibly can. That means some work needs to be done but not too much because of another goal a few paragraphs from now. One of my main goals is to make sure I take care of myself. It's so easy to become overcome by grief or get lost in helping my kids, that I forget to…

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I wasn’t sure how this would turn out

We had a pretty good weekend, and I'm grateful for that. I survived my first birthday as a single Dad, and the boys had a pleasant visit with their mom. Those are all very positive things. While the boys we're gone, I worked on the house and made some decent progress. I also made it to the grocery store and picked up what I needed to make school lunches for the week. I've been making homemade pepperoni rolls out of pretzel rolls, and the kids love them. It's a nice change from pizza every day. When the boys got home from their visit, we put the pepperoni rolls together, and I baked them. It's nice letting them be a part of the process because they're more excited about it and…

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You will not believe the day I’ve had

I'm going to be honest with you all and say that I really thought I was going to have a terrible day. I had assumed that because of everything going on that I would be an emotional mess today but as it turns out, I was wrong. I've been getting messages and phone calls all day from people who wanted to make sure I was alright. They were concerned that I was going to be having a difficult day. For those new to the party, the reason people were concerned is that about two weeks ago, my wife of damn near sixteen years left. It was right before my birthday and our anniversary, which is September 3rd. I was devastated when she left, as were/are the kids. I hadn't seen…

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So this normal for a cat?

So we got this kitten about six weeks ago. I'm not a cat person by this cat is pretty amazing. There's a million interesting things about Harley but the most interesting for me is her attachment to Elliott and Emmett. Every single night, she sleeps face to face with one of them. She often literally sleeps with her paws on their face. Maybe this is normal cat behavior but I've never seen it before. She usually starts out with Emmett and then at some point, moves to Elliott. It's like shes protecting or looking over them while they sleep. The kids find comfort in this and that makes me happy. Does anyone else have a cat that behaves like this? Also, the kids are considering changing her name. Lizze had…

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