I’m heartbroken over forcing my son with #Autism to go to school today

I woke up exhausted, but in a good mood. That mood carried me through until it came time to get Emmett in his shoes and socks. 
Lizze worked for quite some time with him on being able to tolerate his shoes and socks. Unfortunately, despite her best efforts and massive amounts of patience, we never resolved anything for more that a few minutes.  

Emmett was okay with things until he got in the car and I began making the drive to school. 

At this point he’s freaking out, screaming and ripping his shoes off again. This lasted the entire trip to the school and I wasn’t in the best place to deal with this. 



When we got to school, I had to park the car because he wouldn’t get out or put his shoe back on. It was already 8:30 am and I’m really beginning to stress out because I have a million things to do today. 

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  1. I get it. My oldest often battles fatigue, irritability and autoimmune flare ups. I have days like this too I feel bad for sending him but he’s missed many days already.

    1. It’s so hard to know what the right thing to do is. I feel for you Rebecca

    • Lucy on May 3, 2017 at 5:44 pm
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    Feel for you, I know how it can emotionally drain you, leaving you feel bad all day.

    1. Yes it can and often does. Do you face this challenge as well?

  2. I get it. My oldest often battles fatigue, irritability and autoimmune flare ups. I have days like this too I feel bad for sending him but he’s missed many days already.

    1. It’s so hard to know what the right thing to do is. I feel for you Rebecca

    • Lucy on February 19, 2018 at 12:54 pm
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    Feel for you, I know how it can emotionally drain you, leaving you feel bad all day.

    1. Yes it can and often does. Do you face this challenge as well?

  3. You’re not being a monster. At some point, he is going to have to learn to deal with his sensory issues in a way that doesn’t involve kicking and screaming, and missing more school really isn’t an option for him. I’m coming at this from a non-parental guilt angle and I realize that you probably feel awful, especially since he didn’t say goodbye, but this might be exactly what he needed to have happen in order to start learning that life can’t stop when his shoes feel funny. I don’t mean that in a mean or harsh way, I understand that this is a very real problem for him, but it’s one that he needs to work on overcoming. Forcing the issue might be a step in the right direction.

    1. I certainly hope you’re right but I know that most adults with Autism have told me otherwise and I find them to be an incredible resource… I’ll talk to his OT again today and find out how far is too far… Thanks for the support Kim.. ☺️

  4. i cannot even imagine,prayers for you and for finding the better way

    1. Awe. Thank you

    • kimmy gebhardt on February 19, 2018 at 12:31 pm
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    You’re not being a monster. At some point, he is going to have to learn to deal with his sensory issues in a way that doesn’t involve kicking and screaming, and missing more school really isn’t an option for him. I’m coming at this from a non-parental guilt angle and I realize that you probably feel awful, especially since he didn’t say goodbye, but this might be exactly what he needed to have happen in order to start learning that life can’t stop when his shoes feel funny. I don’t mean that in a mean or harsh way, I understand that this is a very real problem for him, but it’s one that he needs to work on overcoming. Forcing the issue might be a step in the right direction.

    1. I certainly hope you’re right but I know that most adults with Autism have told me otherwise and I find them to be an incredible resource… I’ll talk to his OT again today and find out how far is too far… Thanks for the support Kim.. ☺️

  5. i cannot even imagine,prayers for you and for finding the better way

    1. Awe. Thank you

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