Throughout the school year, we’ve had some concerns with certain teachers. It’s not that they’re doing something that was clearly wrong but rather we disagreed with their approach to dealing with kids on the Autism Spectrum.
Recently, Elliott has been emotionally distraught over things he said were happening in the classroom. These things ranged from being singled out in front of the class, being questioned about his medications and being shamed over his struggles with homework. Whenever we’ve approached the teachers about this, Elliott says he would be confronted the next day by his teachers and he was terrified.
When this came to our attention last week (Thursday), my initial reaction is one of being pissed off and wanting blood. He’s one of my babies and I’m a papa bear.
The next day, Elliott and I sat down with the principal and explained what has been going on. I posted about this at the time but didn’t go into detail because nothing had been resolved and it was an ongoing issue I wasn’t ready to talk about.
We avoided the teacher because if he was getting blowback, it would just happen again and it seemed kinda stupid to perpetuate the same cycle.
Monday morning rolls around and I’m not in a good place because I’m still a mess from the Paxil issues. Keeping that in mind, I received a message from this teacher via Class Dojo and it didn’t go over well with me. I was livid and based on what was said in the message, I was worried that Elliott was not okay because she had confronted him about meeting with the principal.
It was about 10 AM and I grabbed my keys and was out the door and on the way to the school.
I sat down with the principal, read the message to him and told him I don’t ever remember being this pissed off at a teacher in my entire life. He immediately called the teacher to the office so the three of us can figure out what was going on.
It took everything I had to remain calm, and I did remain calm. As much as I wanted to just unleash my thoughts, I also knew that it’s important to hear both sides of the story before reacting. It’s easier said than done but it’s important nonetheless.
With that in mind, I contained my feelings and managed to eek out an adult conversation. Believe me when I say this, in my current state, that was quite an accomplishment.