10 Things my Autistic kids wished you knew

Written by me, Rob Gorski and dedicated to my amazingly beautiful children.  1. I’m sorry I have meltdowns but I’m not a spoiled brat. I’m just so much younger on the inside than I am on the outside. 2. I’m easily overwhelmed because I see and hear everything. I hear the lights hum and clock tick. Everything is so loud it makes my head hurt all the time and my eyes hurt from all the bright lights.   3. I’m not stupid, I’m actually very smart. I just don’t learn the way you want me to. Please learn about Autism so you know how to help me better understand what you are trying to teach. 4. Please don’t be mad at mommy and daddy because we don’t come over for holidays or…

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The Special Needs Parenting Creed

This is something that I struggle with quite a bit but this is what I tell myself in the really bad days..  I truly hope it helps you to find the strength to make it through those really bad days.. ❤️ Please help me share this post, especially if you know someone who could really use the encouragement... Thank you.. 😀   

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I’ve been focusing on my failures a lot lately 

I've been focusing a great deal on my failures lately, as the title of this post states but I'm not doing this intentionally.. I could be wrong but I suspect many of us (single and or special needs parents) do the same thing from time to time. Frankly, it's kinda hard not to, especially when you know that you can't always or ever for that matter, meet your kids needs.  I can't easily explain what it feels like to know that you will never be enough to meet all of your special needs child's needs. It really isn't even a shortcoming because sometimes their needs are so demanding that it's just not possible to meet all of them..     That's a pretty logical argument but there's no logic when it…

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The Autism Dad Origin Story

UPDATE: Our journey has changed once again and you can read about that here. As I'm slowly rebuilding my readership, traffic and reach on this new blogging journey, I thought it would be helpful to share why write about my life. It's new information for some and a reminder for others. If you've been a reader since Lost and Tired, there have been some changes, but my writing should still be largely recognizable. Part of me hated to walk away from what I'd built with Lost and Tired over the past 6 years, but part of me feels a sense of relief and excitement. Lost and Tired was the real life story of two parents raising three special needs kids. It was raw, gritty but beautiful and inspiring at the…

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What you don’t know about special needs parenting but probably should

This post has a very special purpose. It focuses solely on the challenges of being special needs parent. As special needs parents, we all know that the challenges are well worth it and there are many positive as well but the goal here is to help the rest of the world better understand what we go through as parents.  One of the toughest parts of being a special needs parent is trying to get others to understand even a small percentage of what daily life is like for families with special needs children. It doesn't matter if it's Autism, Downs Syndrome, ADHD, SPD or anything else. As a parent, your life is impacted in ways most can't even begin to understand. There's no such thing as a level playing field…

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EVERYTHING IN LIFE IS RELATIVE: If you’re a special needs parent, please read and share this

I want to be straight up and completely real here for a minute. Not that I do anything but that anyway. 😉 I love hearing from my readers, be it here or on Facebook, etc. Two of the things that I get asked quite a bit are the following. How in the world do I maintain my sanity? How do I not run out of patience with my kids and their challenging behavior? These questions are usually preempted by something like I only have one child with Autism or SPD or ADHD or Anxiety, and I struggle.     Something that's really important to understand is that every single situation is different. Everyone is facing unique challenges, and we all have different thresholds for things. I don't have any super powers…

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How You Could Help A Special Needs Parent

As the rates of Autism continues to skyrocket, the likely hood of you knowing someone that is a special needs parent is growing as well. Maybe you already know someone with a special needs child. Perhaps, a friend or family member. In this article, I hope to give you some simple ways that you can help the special needs parent in your life. Knowing what to say or do can be daunting for someone that doesn't have experience with special needs parenting. This is probably where many people, with the best of intentions, get scared off. Seeing what a special needs parent goes through can be a very overwhelming experience for anyone. It may even seem so dire that one might feel that they have nothing to offer, that could…

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