#Autism Parenting: Whatever doesn’t kill you….. 

Whatever doesn’t kill you, only makes you stronger. If that’s true, I should be in really good shape after the morning I’ve had. 

My God… You would think that we were trying to cut his feet off, when all we were trying to do was help him get something on them that would allow him to go to school. 

Every time it feels like we’ve made progress, something always comes along and yanks the rug out from underneath our feet. 

The reality is, raising kids on the Autism Spectrum is like living in Ohio and complaining about the weather. If we just wait ten minutes, the weather will change. 



In many ways, that’s true in regards to parenting a child on the spectrum but not always in the sense that the change is a positive thing. 

What I mean by that is this. Even if we manage to get Emmett comfortable in his shoes and socks, it’s only a matter of time before he will no longer be able to wear them. 

Over the years, I bought countless shoes, slippers, crocs, socks and even flip-flops for Emmett. Everything seems to work at least once or twice but after a short amount of time, something changes and we’re back to square one. 



Our go to for school has been flip-flops because oddly enough, he’s almost always okay with those, regardless of the temperature. 

Unfortunately, the winds of change are upon us once again because even flip-flops are becoming an issue. 

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We did finally get him out the door wearing his flip-flops but only by the grace of God and I mean we barely pulled this off. I fear we are going to be facing even greater challenge in the near future because if he can no longer tolerate his flip-flops, we have nothing to fall back on.. 

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kimmy gebhardt

Is it just me or does this issue seem to be getting worse? Maybe you’re just writing about it more often? I don’t recall you mentioning it as much last year. I watched the video and it’s awful and my heart goes out to him. I guess I’m just wondering if there is something else that is exacerbation the situation.

Mary Deigan
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I feel your pain – we have massive issues with shoes and socks. Ethan won’t wear socks at all but luckily his school are OK about that. Now he has grown out of the only pair of shoes he feels comfortable in, we have been trying different pairs but there always seems to be a problem. Now we are trying buying second hand shoes that have been worn in and are softer. Luckily he has a 1:1 TA at school, as she often has to carry a pair of plimsoles with her if he needs to change into them!

kimmy gebhardt
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kimmy gebhardt

Is it just me or does this issue seem to be getting worse? Maybe you’re just writing about it more often? I don’t recall you mentioning it as much last year. I watched the video and it’s awful and my heart goes out to him. I guess I’m just wondering if there is something else that is exacerbation the situation.

Mary Deigan
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I feel your pain – we have massive issues with shoes and socks. Ethan won’t wear socks at all but luckily his school are OK about that. Now he has grown out of the only pair of shoes he feels comfortable in, we have been trying different pairs but there always seems to be a problem. Now we are trying buying second hand shoes that have been worn in and are softer. Luckily he has a 1:1 TA at school, as she often has to carry a pair of plimsoles with her if he needs to change into them!

BeckyW
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BeckyW

This does seem like an issue that needs more therapy of whatever kind. What I get from the blog posts is a sense of fighting something that is dark and amorphous and constantly changes. (Is it one of the Marvel super villains? But I digress.) But my sense is also that your son is in agony, while you are also in emotional agony. (I did NOT watch the video. I just can’t.) Personally, as a mother of a (high-functioning) autistic son, who is also HFA, I’m guessing that stress and/or lack of sleep heightens his sensitivity, poor kid. I know… Read more »

BeckyW
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BeckyW

This does seem like an issue that needs more therapy of whatever kind. What I get from the blog posts is a sense of fighting something that is dark and amorphous and constantly changes. (Is it one of the Marvel super villains? But I digress.) But my sense is also that your son is in agony, while you are also in emotional agony. (I did NOT watch the video. I just can’t.) Personally, as a mother of a (high-functioning) autistic son, who is also HFA, I’m guessing that stress and/or lack of sleep heightens his sensitivity, poor kid. I know… Read more »