Emmett set the bar for bravery incredibly high today

It's been a really long day but it's also been a pretty good one as well. Emmett's dentist appointment went well and he kicked ass. They fixed his tooth and he didn't even need numbed up. I think it took a total of 5 minutes. He was nervous but very brave and I couldn't be prouder. ☺ This means that the bar is set pretty high in the bravery department and it's gonna be tough for me to live up to that next week when I have my wisdom teeth removed. I'm absolutely terrified of having this done but I need to set an example and preferably, a positive one. ☺ I also was able to spend some one on one time with Emmett today. I took him to lunch…

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We don’t always get to do what we want

Lizze is sick and the boys are driving me crazy. They have a ton of energy and are in desperate need of an outlet. Seeing as we can't really spend time in our yard, for various reasons, including safety, we need to find something else. The boys are bored of always going to the same park so I figured I'd take them hiking at Quail Hollow. I'm not really in the mood to take this on, especially alone but being a parent isn't always easy and we sometimes have to do things we don't feel like doing. It's actually a pretty nice day and it would be nice if we could take advantage of it. It's in the 50's and partly sunny, so why not do some hiking. On the…

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Why it’s so hard to cook for my #Autism family

Good morning folks. ☺ Last night before bed, I decided to do something this morning that I haven't done in a long time time. I know this is going to sound weird but I haven't cooked a family breakfast in I can't tell you how long. Sounds terrible doesn't it? Honestly, yes and no. The reality is that I love cooking. I love cooking for my family. That's not the issue here. The problem has been that my family is very, very, very difficult to cook for because of all the sensory related food issues. I used to try and cook three meals a day but it became too much. It wasn't just cooking three meals, it often meant cooking a unique meal for each person in the house, three…

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If that’s not how you roll then do it for your kids

There's zero part of me that wants to do anything positive for myself today. I'm feeling depressed and exhausted but if I give up control to those feelings, it becomes a very slippery slope and I'll be more inclined to do it again. Selfcare is absolutely vital, especially when it's the last thing in the world you want to do. It's not easy putting yourself first at times but it's really important that you find a way to do it. It's for that reason, as well as a few others, I'm pushing myself to go walking. Whenever I'm in a place where I just don't care about myself, I think about my kids and what they would do if I wasn't here to care for them. That's really good motivation…

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Gavin said something very disturbing yesterday and this is how we’re handling it

Yesterday Gavin told me something and it's really concerning for a number of reasons. I'm just going to get into what he told me and then discuss the reasons for concern and what we can do about it. Out of nowhere, Gavin approached me yesterday and wanted to tell me something. I had assumed it was about a game or something and was not paying a great deal of attention. The next words out of his mouth were "I keep having thoughts of stabbing you guys". That got my immediate and undivided attention. I remained calm and asked him to explain a bit more about these thoughts. He gave me the following example: when I'm washing the dishes and cleaning a knife, I think about what would happen if one…

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A very rough morning for my youngest with #Autism

I took Emmett to the doctor this morning because we're trying to figure out why he's getting sick when he eats. It's been a chaotic morning because I have to be in 3 different places this morning and I'm scrambling to meet all my obligations. Emmett is doing okay-ish right now but we're waiting to get some blood work done. He's very, very, very nervous and if you're an Autism parent, you know how well that's probably going. He's struggling right now and his anxiety is through the roof. This all has me on edge. Hopefully, this will go well enough that we can walk out of the office with any major hiccups. At this point in time, they are checking for changed to food allergies as well as celiac.…

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We’re laying my Grandfather to rest this morning and this is what we’re doing with the kids

It's going to be a rough day. My Grandfather's funeral is this morning and it's about an hour away. Calling hours will immediately be followed by the funeral. It's all in one day and I guess that's a thing now. Honestly, it's better this way because it makes it easier for everyone to be there for everything and that's important. After several discussions with Dr. Pattie, my parents, Lizze's parents and some of you, we decided to give the boys the opportunity to attend the funeral. This is only for Elliott and Emmett, as it's best for all, including Gavin, if he stays back. Both boys wanted to go and until last night, that was the plan. While I was out walking last night, Elliott decided that it would be…

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A few things you should NEVER say to an #Autism parent

While this is meant to be somewhat humorous, it's also trying to make a point. Statements like these are not helpful. They can can be annoying and even downright offensive. I can't tell you how many times I've heard things like: You should use a sticker chart because all kids respond to sticker charts. You need to discipline your child and they won't act that way. Are you sure he's Autistic because he doesn't look Autistic. Don't worry, he'll outgrow it. He's just a picky eater, and he'll eat when he's hungry. I know all about Autism, I've seen Rain Man. I will say that a good number of the people who have said these things to me have been well intentioned. They mean well but at the same time,…

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