The heartbreaking letter my son with #Autism wrote – Page 2

The heartbreaking letter my son with #Autism wrote


In Elliott’s case, he doesn’t lie, but that doesn’t mean he always correctly interprets situations or motives correctly, especially if emotions are involved.

Elliott is so hurt that everyone laughed at him when he fell because he couldn’t even imagine doing the same thing to someone else. He would have been the first person to help and therefore expects that everyone else would do the same thing because it’s the right thing to do.

Unfortunately, that’s not the way the world works, and he’s going to be disappointed a great deal if he doesn’t somehow grasp that concept. I’ve had many conversations with him about this, but he just doesn’t understand why people wouldn’t do the right thing.

After we arrived home, he gave me a piece of paper that turned out to be a new journal entry for him. It was all about what happened at school and how it made him feel.

He wanted me to share this because he’s hoping that people will learn something from his experience. If someone falls and gets hurt, he wants people to do the right thing, instead of laughing. At least make sure the person who fell is okay.

As a parent, I hate the idea of my kid’s hurting, and I ask that you talk to your kids about what to do in situations like this.

Elliott is physically okay. He’s sore, a little bruised but okay. Emotionally, he’s disillusioned by how his classmates reacted to him falling down the steps. I can only continue to work with him on adjusting his expectations but this is how he perceives things, and I’m not sure there’s a great deal I can do to help him.

As for the school, this has been resolved, and while I’m unhappy with how it was handled, I’m grateful for how they’ve responded to my concerns.

The principal caught up with me today and wanted to make sure I knew he had addressed this and agreed that I should have been called. That will be the approach going forward. I’m happy with that…

No one is perfect, least of all me. It’s not the making of a mistake but rather the way in which that mistake is addressed, that matters to me.

Anyway, poor Elliott is still emotionally struggling from this whole thing, but we’re working through it. You can tell he’s carrying this with him because he’s always at that threshold and it doesn’t take much to send him into an emotional meltdown.

Spring break has started, and that will give him some time to work through this.

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mathewpenny648

I know exactly how he feels. I can remember having things happen like that as a kid and other kids thinking its funny. (You remember I have mild Asperger’s.) So he will have to keep learning about our world. It’s not that it’s all cold and cruel, but that people aren’t as nice as they should be at all times. 🙁

mathewpenny648

And great use of the word “humiliated,” even it was sad. Please tell him I’m impressed with how clearly he communicated his feelings.

Rob Gorski

Well said. He also needs to understand that just because he would do the right thing, doesn’t mean everyone else will.

Patrick Gylling

Cherish that he can express himself that well.Lot of training behind that.We have to believe struggles make them stronger

Rob Gorski

Thanks Patrick. 🙂

kimmy gebhardt

I feel like I need to address the big, shaking elephant in the room… why is he shaking like crazy, so much in fact, that his foot slipped off the stair and he fell? Does one of his meds cause shaking?

bwiren

I know exactly how he feels. I can remember having things happen like that as a kid and other kids thinking its funny. (You remember I have mild Asperger’s.) So he will have to keep learning about our world. It’s not that it’s all cold and cruel, but that people aren’t as nice as they should be at all times. 🙁

bwiren

And great use of the word “humiliated,” even it was sad. Please tell him I’m impressed with how clearly he communicated his feelings.

Nicole Salamon Beros

Sending hugs!!!

Patrick Gylling

Cherish that he can express himself that well.Lot of training behind that.We have to believe struggles make them stronger

BillDozer

heartbreaking

adriannecollee

I feel like I need to address the big, shaking elephant in the room… why is he shaking like crazy, so much in fact, that his foot slipped off the stair and he fell? Does one of his meds cause shaking?

Rob Gorski

That’s a good question. What he’s experiencing are tremors and it could be related to his Adderall, which is the only medication he’s on. We are going to speak to his doctor…

Nicole Salamon Beros

Sending hugs!!!

Rob Gorski

Thanks Nicole… ☺

BillDozer

heartbreaking

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