What makes a corndog inedible? 

This is my life, and as a parent to three with Autism, I deal with this stuff every single meal, of every single day. My goal with this post is to help put into context, what both people with Autism and their families or caregivers, deal with.  The pictures below are just one example of how sensory processing disorder and Autism can impact things like eating.  These are more dramatic examples because the imperfections are much more obvious. Many times however, the imperfections are much more subtle and only noticeable to one Mr. Emmett.  I can see why he sees this as a problem but it in no way impacts the corndog.  In his eyes, this is absolutely inedible and he would never dream of actually consuming this, regardless of…

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Just because he can speak doesn’t mean he can always communicate 

Gavin has been sleeping most of the day thus far. He says he's feeling fine but this is unusual for him.  It's really difficult to know how he's feeling because he's not a reliable source of information about himself. I know that sounds weird, as everyone should be the best source of information about themselves, but not in Gavin's case.  Gavin lacks a great deal of self awareness and that's needed in order to convey to others, with any accuracy, how he's feeling.  Merriam-Webster defines communication as a technique for expressing ideas effectively (as in speech) He may say he's feeling fine because he's not in any physical pain. That said, he might be feeling run down, tired, nauseated, or sick. It's really hard to know with any certainty, how Gavin's…

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Is it real or is it drama? 

Gavin's been having a rough couple of days, especially at night. In many ways, he's his own worst enemy. He gets himself all worked up and then he can't settle down.  Friday night we had the medication ordeal. In all the rush to get to calling hours, I want thinking and forgot to physically put his meds in his backpack. When it came to bedtime, he worked himself into a tizzy because he convinced himself that he would never fall asleep until he had his meds.  Missing his meds is not a good thing, however, one dose wouldn't be the end of the world. He would simply pick back up in the morning when he got home.  Lizze's Mom ended up bringing him home around 10 pm (if I recall…

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Getting shit done and taking a break seem mutually exclusive 

I don't know about any of you, but when we manage to get a break from the kids, we're usually completely exhausted. Thankfully, we get somewhat regular breaks, because the boys have very active Grandparents. That's an absolute blessing.  Having said that, when we get a break, my wife and I are so far beyond tired, all we want to do is crash. When I go without sleep (or quality sleep anyway) for as long as I do, the first thing I do when the boys leave, is go to sleep.  I know that I can't actually make up for lost sleep, but my body certainly tries.  Whenever we get a break, we also face a conundrum. Do we rest, or get caught up on things around the house?  Trying…

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Never take breaks for granted 

I'm pretty sure the boys will be going to Lizze's parents today. There hasn't been any confirmation yet, but we'll make do either way. If the boys end up going, Lizze and I will get some time to ourselves. We've been under a great deal of stress this week. There's no one thing that's really weighing on us. It's more like a combination of things. The point is, all this stress has introduced some tension into the mix and that's not something either one of us want. Getting a break would mean that we can have some time, outside of all this Autism and Special Needs parenting stress. These breaks, are good for us, both as individuals, and as a couple. As I always like to stress, not everyone is…

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My life is exhausting on a good day

I was lucky enough to get a power nap this morning. I'm feeling much better now and ready to both write and take on the day.  The boys will be gone for a few more hours and I want to get some things done before they get home. My biggest priority is hitting the treadmill because if I don't keep pushing myself to do that each day, I'll never make it a habit.  I did awesome yesterday but I've fallen behind today.  It's so hard to stay motivated when I'm under so much stress. Maybe that sounds like a cop-out, but it's what happens. The more stressful my life gets, the more I just want to shut down.  My life is exhausting on a good day and I don't always…

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The simple, practical, and powerful reasons we chose to #vaccinate

While I will never tell someone else what to do with their child, as I would hope no one would do to us, I will share why we've chosen to vaccinate our kids. My wife and I decided very early on, that we were going to vaccinate our kids. We both have had all of our vaccinations growing up, and want to protect our kids as well. We also have a great deal of respect for our children's pediatrician, and trust her to help us give our kids the best shot at a healthy life. Shot... See what I did there? lol Aside from the common side effects like fever or redness at the injection site, none of our kids have ever had a problem. I think Elliott's arm swelled…

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I remember why I don’t take all 3 of my kids with #Autism shopping at once 

I'm completely exhausted after a long day. I took the boys to therapy, to order Gavin's new glasses, and then to the grocery store. While at the store, I was quickly reminded why I avoid taking all three of them shopping at the same time.  Don't get me wrong, they weren't terrible, and frankly, after the long day they did well.  It was more exhausting than frustrating for me because I had to constantly keep them focused. They were all over the place and wrangling them wasn't easy. Gavin was simply oblivious to his surroundings and kept walking into people and things.  Elliott and Emmett were pushing each other's buttons, and it quickly escalated.  My back is killing me, I ended up spending to much at the grocery store, and…

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