Simply because our kids have special needs, doesn’t mean that they are incapable of driving us crazy from time to time, or maybe all the time. My kids drive me crazy almost every single day and I don’t feel guilty over that because kids are supposed to drive their parents crazy. It’s sorta like a right of passage.
Sometimes people can feel that because their child has special needs, they shouldn’t ever get frustrated or angry with them. I call bullshit on that because it’s bullshit.
I have three kids with special needs, my oldest actually has very serious medical and emotional issues. They drive me nuts all the time. Does that somehow mean I love them any less or that they’re bad kids? Does it make me a bad parent? Of course not.
We’re all human.
We all experience emotions.
Most importantly, raising kids with Autism is fucking hard.
Pardon my French but you can’t overstate the level of difficulty involved with Autism parenting. You’re going to feel a wide range of emotions.
What matters is that we deal with these emotions in an appropriate manner. I embrace these feelings because they’re part of the journey and frankly, I’d be worried if I didn’t feel these things.
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It’s also important to forgive ourselves for feeling in the first place.
At the end of the day, we’re guilty of being human, tasked with a job requiring superhuman abilities.
Our kids don’t need us to be perfect. If we’re striving for perfect, we’re setting ourselves up for disappointment. We’ll never be perfect parents but we are the perfect people to parent our kids.