Tough decisions and sleep deprivation :(



It’s been a long day, filled with tough decisions and sleep deprivation.  With Emmett being home from school once again, I made limited progress on the self-imposed Daddy-do-list.

I was able to get Gavin’s OT/PT evaluation rescheduled for next week.  Yay me…  🙂

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I was also able to reach out to the adjudicator of Elliott’s SSI case because some of the needed paperwork hasn’t been received yet.  I could only leave a message but I should hear back by the end of the week. 



The progress really ended there. 

I also had the unpleasant task of having to deny some of the proposed changes to the boys visitation with their Mom. 

It was the right thing to do but this isn’t how I ever wanted things to be. 



If you would have told me 2 years ago that this is what I’d be doing today, I would never have believed you, not even for a moment.

I can’t imagine actually hating anything more than the position this has put me in.  It’s an unfair burden but one that I will carry out of love for my kids. 

Hopefully, I will not have to do this forever but as long as it’s necessary, that’s what I’ll do.

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Darcy Dallin
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Darcy Dallin

So what were the changes that you denied & to whom? Are you taking the “easy” way out & not giving mom & grandma what they deserve, want, need, so you didn’t have to deal with Elliott’s issues? In the last post you said you were going to do the changes enough that mom picked the kids up at home right after school. Are you still doing that or no changes at all?

Rob Gorski
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From now on, I’m just going to respond to aggressive questions like this with the following.

Darcy, you have a nice day.

If you’d like me to honestly answer something, perhaps you could work on your approach and take a less accusatory tone. Otherwise, I tend to not take the question seriously.

Darcy Dallin
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Darcy Dallin

Sorry for the long rant – I would hope you will read, so maybe you can better understand. I guess it’s a difference of opinion. You asked for everyone’s opinion, but once again, if they are different than yours you have issues. (This is not the first time you went on the defense and not just against me). I’m sorry the way I asked and the questions I asked insulted you. Guess I’m blunt and rude to you. That’s who I am. We are all different, Rob, and you have to accept those differences, especially if they go against you.… Read more »

Rob Gorski
Admin

Okay, I’m going to be as nice as I can. I’m not sure if you realize how silly you’re coming across. You have completely misread the post and have no idea what you’re talking about. Please read a little slower before climbing up on your high horse and accusing me of anything. The only thing that was denied was simply picking the kids up from school. That’s it. That decision was reach after lengthy discussion with Elliott and his therapist. This isn’t about meltdowns. This is about the emotional wellbeing of a traumatized child with special needs and frankly, I… Read more »

Kim Gebhardt
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Kim Gebhardt

I don’t think Rob is taking the easy way out, I think he’s taking Elliott’s feelings into consideration. School is a safe and happy place for him, and having Lizze there ruins that. I’m never shy in my questions or criticisms of Rob, but I think you’re way off the mark with this one.

Rob Gorski
Admin

Thanks Kim. Coming from you that means a lot. 🙂

Darcy Dallin
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Darcy Dallin

So what were the changes that you denied & to whom? Are you taking the “easy” way out & not giving mom & grandma what they deserve, want, need, so you didn’t have to deal with Elliott’s issues? In the last post you said you were going to do the changes enough that mom picked the kids up at home right after school. Are you still doing that or no changes at all?

Rob Gorski
Admin

From now on, I’m just going to respond to aggressive questions like this with the following.

Darcy, you have a nice day.

If you’d like me to honestly answer something, perhaps you could work on your approach and take a less accusatory tone. Otherwise, I tend to not take the question seriously.

Darcy Dallin
Guest
Darcy Dallin

Sorry for the long rant – I would hope you will read, so maybe you can better understand. I guess it’s a difference of opinion. You asked for everyone’s opinion, but once again, if they are different than yours you have issues. (This is not the first time you went on the defense and not just against me). I’m sorry the way I asked and the questions I asked insulted you. Guess I’m blunt and rude to you. That’s who I am. We are all different, Rob, and you have to accept those differences, especially if they go against you.… Read more »

Kim Gebhardt
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Kim Gebhardt

I don’t think Rob is taking the easy way out, I think he’s taking Elliott’s feelings into consideration. School is a safe and happy place for him, and having Lizze there ruins that. I’m never shy in my questions or criticisms of Rob, but I think you’re way off the mark with this one.

Rob Gorski
Admin

Thanks Kim. Coming from you that means a lot. 🙂

Darcy Dallin
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Darcy Dallin

So what were the changes that you denied & to whom? Are you taking the “easy” way out & not giving mom & grandma what they deserve, want, need, so you didn’t have to deal with Elliott’s issues? In the last post you said you were going to do the changes enough that mom picked the kids up at home right after school. Are you still doing that or no changes at all?

Rob Gorski
Admin

From now on, I’m just going to respond to aggressive questions like this with the following.

Darcy, you have a nice day.

If you’d like me to honestly answer something, perhaps you could work on your approach and take a less accusatory tone. Otherwise, I tend to not take the question seriously.

Darcy Dallin
Guest
Darcy Dallin

Sorry for the long rant – I would hope you will read, so maybe you can better understand. I guess it’s a difference of opinion. You asked for everyone’s opinion, but once again, if they are different than yours you have issues. (This is not the first time you went on the defense and not just against me). I’m sorry the way I asked and the questions I asked insulted you. Guess I’m blunt and rude to you. That’s who I am. We are all different, Rob, and you have to accept those differences, especially if they go against you.… Read more »

Kim Gebhardt
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Kim Gebhardt

I don’t think Rob is taking the easy way out, I think he’s taking Elliott’s feelings into consideration. School is a safe and happy place for him, and having Lizze there ruins that. I’m never shy in my questions or criticisms of Rob, but I think you’re way off the mark with this one.

Rob Gorski
Admin

Thanks Kim. Coming from you that means a lot. 🙂

Darcy Dallin
Guest
Darcy Dallin

So what were the changes that you denied & to whom? Are you taking the “easy” way out & not giving mom & grandma what they deserve, want, need, so you didn’t have to deal with Elliott’s issues? In the last post you said you were going to do the changes enough that mom picked the kids up at home right after school. Are you still doing that or no changes at all?

Rob Gorski
Admin

From now on, I’m just going to respond to aggressive questions like this with the following.

Darcy, you have a nice day.

If you’d like me to honestly answer something, perhaps you could work on your approach and take a less accusatory tone. Otherwise, I tend to not take the question seriously.

Darcy Dallin
Guest
Darcy Dallin

Sorry for the long rant – I would hope you will read, so maybe you can better understand. I guess it’s a difference of opinion. You asked for everyone’s opinion, but once again, if they are different than yours you have issues. (This is not the first time you went on the defense and not just against me). I’m sorry the way I asked and the questions I asked insulted you. Guess I’m blunt and rude to you. That’s who I am. We are all different, Rob, and you have to accept those differences, especially if they go against you.… Read more »

Kim Gebhardt
Guest
Kim Gebhardt

I don’t think Rob is taking the easy way out, I think he’s taking Elliott’s feelings into consideration. School is a safe and happy place for him, and having Lizze there ruins that. I’m never shy in my questions or criticisms of Rob, but I think you’re way off the mark with this one.

Rob Gorski
Admin

Thanks Kim. Coming from you that means a lot. 🙂

Darcy Dallin
Guest
Darcy Dallin

So what were the changes that you denied & to whom? Are you taking the “easy” way out & not giving mom & grandma what they deserve, want, need, so you didn’t have to deal with Elliott’s issues? In the last post you said you were going to do the changes enough that mom picked the kids up at home right after school. Are you still doing that or no changes at all?

Rob Gorski
Admin

From now on, I’m just going to respond to aggressive questions like this with the following.

Darcy, you have a nice day.

If you’d like me to honestly answer something, perhaps you could work on your approach and take a less accusatory tone. Otherwise, I tend to not take the question seriously.

Darcy Dallin
Guest
Darcy Dallin

Sorry for the long rant – I would hope you will read, so maybe you can better understand. I guess it’s a difference of opinion. You asked for everyone’s opinion, but once again, if they are different than yours you have issues. (This is not the first time you went on the defense and not just against me). I’m sorry the way I asked and the questions I asked insulted you. Guess I’m blunt and rude to you. That’s who I am. We are all different, Rob, and you have to accept those differences, especially if they go against you.… Read more »

Kim Gebhardt
Guest
Kim Gebhardt

I don’t think Rob is taking the easy way out, I think he’s taking Elliott’s feelings into consideration. School is a safe and happy place for him, and having Lizze there ruins that. I’m never shy in my questions or criticisms of Rob, but I think you’re way off the mark with this one.

Rob Gorski
Admin

Thanks Kim. Coming from you that means a lot. 🙂

Darcy Dallin
Guest
Darcy Dallin

So what were the changes that you denied & to whom? Are you taking the “easy” way out & not giving mom & grandma what they deserve, want, need, so you didn’t have to deal with Elliott’s issues? In the last post you said you were going to do the changes enough that mom picked the kids up at home right after school. Are you still doing that or no changes at all?

Rob Gorski
Admin

From now on, I’m just going to respond to aggressive questions like this with the following.

Darcy, you have a nice day.

If you’d like me to honestly answer something, perhaps you could work on your approach and take a less accusatory tone. Otherwise, I tend to not take the question seriously.

Darcy Dallin
Guest
Darcy Dallin

Sorry for the long rant – I would hope you will read, so maybe you can better understand. I guess it’s a difference of opinion. You asked for everyone’s opinion, but once again, if they are different than yours you have issues. (This is not the first time you went on the defense and not just against me). I’m sorry the way I asked and the questions I asked insulted you. Guess I’m blunt and rude to you. That’s who I am. We are all different, Rob, and you have to accept those differences, especially if they go against you.… Read more »

Rob Gorski
Admin

Okay, I’m going to be as nice as I can. I’m not sure if you realize how silly you’re coming across. You have completely misread the post and have no idea what you’re talking about. Please read a little slower before climbing up on your high horse and accusing me of anything. The only thing that was denied was simply picking the kids up from school. That’s it. That decision was reach after lengthy discussion with Elliott and his therapist. This isn’t about meltdowns. This is about the emotional wellbeing of a traumatized child with special needs and frankly, I… Read more »

Kim Gebhardt
Guest
Kim Gebhardt

I don’t think Rob is taking the easy way out, I think he’s taking Elliott’s feelings into consideration. School is a safe and happy place for him, and having Lizze there ruins that. I’m never shy in my questions or criticisms of Rob, but I think you’re way off the mark with this one.

Rob Gorski
Admin

Thanks Kim. Coming from you that means a lot. 🙂

Darcy Dallin
Guest
Darcy Dallin

So what were the changes that you denied & to whom? Are you taking the “easy” way out & not giving mom & grandma what they deserve, want, need, so you didn’t have to deal with Elliott’s issues? In the last post you said you were going to do the changes enough that mom picked the kids up at home right after school. Are you still doing that or no changes at all?

Rob Gorski
Admin

From now on, I’m just going to respond to aggressive questions like this with the following.

Darcy, you have a nice day.

If you’d like me to honestly answer something, perhaps you could work on your approach and take a less accusatory tone. Otherwise, I tend to not take the question seriously.

Darcy Dallin
Guest
Darcy Dallin

Sorry for the long rant – I would hope you will read, so maybe you can better understand. I guess it’s a difference of opinion. You asked for everyone’s opinion, but once again, if they are different than yours you have issues. (This is not the first time you went on the defense and not just against me). I’m sorry the way I asked and the questions I asked insulted you. Guess I’m blunt and rude to you. That’s who I am. We are all different, Rob, and you have to accept those differences, especially if they go against you.… Read more »

Rob Gorski
Admin

Okay, I’m going to be as nice as I can. I’m not sure if you realize how silly you’re coming across. You have completely misread the post and have no idea what you’re talking about. Please read a little slower before climbing up on your high horse and accusing me of anything. The only thing that was denied was simply picking the kids up from school. That’s it. That decision was reach after lengthy discussion with Elliott and his therapist. This isn’t about meltdowns. This is about the emotional wellbeing of a traumatized child with special needs and frankly, I… Read more »

Kim Gebhardt
Guest
Kim Gebhardt

I don’t think Rob is taking the easy way out, I think he’s taking Elliott’s feelings into consideration. School is a safe and happy place for him, and having Lizze there ruins that. I’m never shy in my questions or criticisms of Rob, but I think you’re way off the mark with this one.

Rob Gorski
Admin

Thanks Kim. Coming from you that means a lot. 🙂

Kim Gebhardt
Guest
Kim Gebhardt

I don’t think Rob is taking the easy way out, I think he’s taking Elliott’s feelings into consideration. School is a safe and happy place for him, and having Lizze there ruins that. I’m never shy in my questions or criticisms of Rob, but I think you’re way off the mark with this one.

Rob Gorski
Admin

Thanks Kim. Coming from you that means a lot. 🙂

Darcy Dallin
Guest
Darcy Dallin

So what were the changes that you denied & to whom? Are you taking the “easy” way out & not giving mom & grandma what they deserve, want, need, so you didn’t have to deal with Elliott’s issues? In the last post you said you were going to do the changes enough that mom picked the kids up at home right after school. Are you still doing that or no changes at all?

Rob Gorski
Admin

From now on, I’m just going to respond to aggressive questions like this with the following.

Darcy, you have a nice day.

If you’d like me to honestly answer something, perhaps you could work on your approach and take a less accusatory tone. Otherwise, I tend to not take the question seriously.

Darcy Dallin
Guest
Darcy Dallin

Sorry for the long rant – I would hope you will read, so maybe you can better understand. I guess it’s a difference of opinion. You asked for everyone’s opinion, but once again, if they are different than yours you have issues. (This is not the first time you went on the defense and not just against me). I’m sorry the way I asked and the questions I asked insulted you. Guess I’m blunt and rude to you. That’s who I am. We are all different, Rob, and you have to accept those differences, especially if they go against you.… Read more »

Rob Gorski
Admin

Okay, I’m going to be as nice as I can. I’m not sure if you realize how silly you’re coming across. You have completely misread the post and have no idea what you’re talking about. Please read a little slower before climbing up on your high horse and accusing me of anything. The only thing that was denied was simply picking the kids up from school. That’s it. That decision was reach after lengthy discussion with Elliott and his therapist. This isn’t about meltdowns. This is about the emotional wellbeing of a traumatized child with special needs and frankly, I… Read more »

Kim Gebhardt
Guest
Kim Gebhardt

I don’t think Rob is taking the easy way out, I think he’s taking Elliott’s feelings into consideration. School is a safe and happy place for him, and having Lizze there ruins that. I’m never shy in my questions or criticisms of Rob, but I think you’re way off the mark with this one.

Rob Gorski
Admin

Thanks Kim. Coming from you that means a lot. 🙂

Stacy Abdeljalil-Wilson
Guest
Stacy Abdeljalil-Wilson

I completely agree with your decision. Visitation should benefit the child first and foremost and Elliot has been clear on his desires. And, you have carefully talked it out with the therapist involved. Nice job doing what is best for Elliot!

Stacy Abdeljalil-Wilson
Guest
Stacy Abdeljalil-Wilson

I completely agree with your decision. Visitation should benefit the child first and foremost and Elliot has been clear on his desires. And, you have carefully talked it out with the therapist involved. Nice job doing what is best for Elliot!

Stacy Abdeljalil-Wilson
Guest
Stacy Abdeljalil-Wilson

I completely agree with your decision. Visitation should benefit the child first and foremost and Elliot has been clear on his desires. And, you have carefully talked it out with the therapist involved. Nice job doing what is best for Elliot!

Stacy Abdeljalil-Wilson
Guest
Stacy Abdeljalil-Wilson

I completely agree with your decision. Visitation should benefit the child first and foremost and Elliot has been clear on his desires. And, you have carefully talked it out with the therapist involved. Nice job doing what is best for Elliot!

Stacy Abdeljalil-Wilson
Guest
Stacy Abdeljalil-Wilson

I completely agree with your decision. Visitation should benefit the child first and foremost and Elliot has been clear on his desires. And, you have carefully talked it out with the therapist involved. Nice job doing what is best for Elliot!

Stacy Abdeljalil-Wilson
Guest
Stacy Abdeljalil-Wilson

I completely agree with your decision. Visitation should benefit the child first and foremost and Elliot has been clear on his desires. And, you have carefully talked it out with the therapist involved. Nice job doing what is best for Elliot!

Kim Gebhardt
Guest
Kim Gebhardt

Too early? I feel like his first tooth is late to the party. My best friend’s daughter is missing both bottom center teeth and she’s 6. I thought Emmett was older than that, though it’s entirely possible that I’m wrong about his age.

Either way, I hope the Tooth Fairy left him something good. : )

Rob Gorski
Admin

Emmett’s only 7. Elliott didn’t start losing his teeth until much later and then they all fell out in a short period of time.

Gavin was pulling his teeth out when he was younger.

Comparatively speaking, he seemed early. I think you’re right though. He’s actually right on time..

…. and yes, the tooth fairy came last night ☺

Kim Gebhardt
Guest
Kim Gebhardt

How old was Elliott when he started losing teeth? I thought 7 was late-ish. I remember reading about Gavin pulling his teeth out. He has made such a turnaround from your early posts on L&T. I don’t know if it was a situation of getting meds straightened out or if he just outgrew some behaviors as he got older, but it’s nice to read about him doing well.

Rob Gorski
Admin

You know, now that I think about it, Elliott was probably 8ish..maybe a little younger. Yeah, Gavin was doing that so the tooth fairy would come. His meds haven’t changed since L&T but the dynamic in his life has. He does have attachment issues and so the relationship with his Mom was a major source of stress for him and for her. She went to the ends of the Earth for Gavin when he was younger but I think the fact that she left has made his life better. It’s not necessarily anyone’s fault but just the nature of the… Read more »

Stacy Abdeljalil-Wilson
Guest
Stacy Abdeljalil-Wilson

I completely agree with your decision. Visitation should benefit the child first and foremost and Elliot has been clear on his desires. And, you have carefully talked it out with the therapist involved. Nice job doing what is best for Elliot!

Stacy Abdeljalil-Wilson
Guest
Stacy Abdeljalil-Wilson

I completely agree with your decision. Visitation should benefit the child first and foremost and Elliot has been clear on his desires. And, you have carefully talked it out with the therapist involved. Nice job doing what is best for Elliot!