We have a pretty big change happening today in regards to the boy’s visitation with their Mom. It may seem minor to some but for three kids on the Autism Spectrum, it’s a really big change and I’m hoping they do alright with it.
Something came up that required the adjustment of the boys every other Wednesday dinner with their Mom and Grandparents.
Rather than just kill the visit and avoid the shake up, we decided to at least semi-permanently move the day from Wednesday to Friday. No one wanted the boys to lose that visit and so we worked together to find a solution.
The reason there was hesitation about this wasn’t anything personal at all, it’s simply because the kid do not do well with change. This will throw off their schedule they’ve gotten used to over the last year and a half.
That being said, moving to Fridays actually makes more sense because this gives me the weekend to work them through the transition, rather than rush them to bed and send them to school the next day. Even the brief dinner visits are really tough on the kids and it shows in things like meltdowns and in Emmett’s case specifically, not sleeping much or at all until the following night.
This is a big change for the boys but it allows for the needed schedule change and it also gives them a bit of extra time to visit because they don’t have school the following day.
So basically, the boys will visit their Mom in some capacity, every Friday after school. Two Fridays will be overnight visits and the other two will be dinners. That’s pretty consistent, at least once they adjust to the change.
It’s going to make the weekends tougher for me because there’s going to be fallout each weekend now but truthfully, there’s fallout after each visit anyways and this will hopefully prove to be better for the boys.
I was happy to adjust the schedule, in the sense that it would preserve the visits and in a divorce situation, you have to be able to work together for the betterment of the kids. Working together for things like this, makes everything so much easier and when there’s no tension because everyone’s on the same page, the kids can feel more comfortable with everything. ☺
