I’m going to try and focus on moving my divorce forward this week



My main back burner goal for this week is to get my dissolution paperwork done so it can be notarized and submitted to the courts.

The bulk of this is already done but the financial stuff needs to be filled out.

It’s pretty overwhelming and frankly hasn’t been at the top of my to do list.  That’s why I referred to is as a backup burner goal for the week.

 



Taking care of the boys comes first, everyday life comes second and these stupid papers are a distant third.

That’s pretty much just the way it is.



I’d like to have this done, don’t get me wrong but it’s not like I have nothing to do but worry about filling out these papers.

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tannawings

It’s been time to get this done…. and it really is to your benefit. Even though your wife isnt there, until things are final she is there finacially. Her income is counting aganst anything you are applying for, and until she is ‘off the books’ so to say, this year she will have every right to claim the kids on any forms. It will also be to your benefit to get this done as she will then pay some much needed child support (and yes, people on disabilty DO pay the minimum at leaast in our state) Until this is… Read more »

Rob Gorski
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It’s a closure thing for me. Getting it done is important and I know that. Financially, nothing is going to change because she has no income and so there’s never going to be child support. She wanted a clean break and that’s what she’s getting. I’m not happy about it but at the end of the day, I have my kids and that’s truly all I care about. Child support would certainly help but when Guardian Locate launches, I’ll be doing much better. It’s cleaner and simpler this way because it wouldn’t make sense to pay alimony to her only… Read more »

Kim Gebhardt
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Kim Gebhardt

Why would you have to pay alimony to her? You have no appreciable income and she walked out. You might want to reconsider getting child support from her. I understand that she has no income now, but if she ever gets disability, then she would be able to help support her children.
Just something to think about.

Rob Gorski
Admin

Kim, that’s a good point. I like to think I’m a good person and I feel like I would be setting her up to fail. Ohio isn’t very forgiving to those who don’t pay their child support and rightfully so. Things were supposed to be more financially stable for me by this point but they aren’t quite yet. It’s so hard to know what the right thing to do is… At the same time, she chose this path and things certainly haven’t been easy for myself or the kids. Thanks Kim. . I need to think. . . .

Kim Gebhardt
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Kim Gebhardt

I understand not wanting to set her up to fail, but if the payments are made directly to you (vs going through OCSE) then the State won’t know unless you tell them. This would still make it easy for you to get payment if she not only finds herself with income, but also if she somehow ends up with a lump sum of money, such as inheritance, settlement from a lawsuit, or even lottery winnings. If she were to end up with a chunk of money, then you could be repaid for all the support payments that she missed.

Kim Gebhardt
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Kim Gebhardt

I understand not wanting to set her up to fail, but if the payments are made directly to you (vs going through OCSE) then the State won’t know unless you tell them. This would still make it easy for you to get payment if she not only finds herself with income, but also if she somehow ends up with a lump sum of money, such as inheritance, settlement from a lawsuit, or even lottery winnings. If she were to end up with a chunk of money, then you could be repaid for all the support payments that she missed.

Kim Gebhardt
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Kim Gebhardt

I understand not wanting to set her up to fail, but if the payments are made directly to you (vs going through OCSE) then the State won’t know unless you tell them. This would still make it easy for you to get payment if she not only finds herself with income, but also if she somehow ends up with a lump sum of money, such as inheritance, settlement from a lawsuit, or even lottery winnings. If she were to end up with a chunk of money, then you could be repaid for all the support payments that she missed.

tannawings
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tannawings

It’s been time to get this done…. and it really is to your benefit. Even though your wife isnt there, until things are final she is there finacially. Her income is counting aganst anything you are applying for, and until she is ‘off the books’ so to say, this year she will have every right to claim the kids on any forms. It will also be to your benefit to get this done as she will then pay some much needed child support (and yes, people on disabilty DO pay the minimum at leaast in our state) Until this is… Read more »

Rob Gorski
Admin

It’s a closure thing for me. Getting it done is important and I know that. Financially, nothing is going to change because she has no income and so there’s never going to be child support. She wanted a clean break and that’s what she’s getting. I’m not happy about it but at the end of the day, I have my kids and that’s truly all I care about. Child support would certainly help but when Guardian Locate launches, I’ll be doing much better. It’s cleaner and simpler this way because it wouldn’t make sense to pay alimony to her only… Read more »

Kim Gebhardt
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Kim Gebhardt

Why would you have to pay alimony to her? You have no appreciable income and she walked out. You might want to reconsider getting child support from her. I understand that she has no income now, but if she ever gets disability, then she would be able to help support her children.
Just something to think about.

Rob Gorski
Admin

Kim, that’s a good point. I like to think I’m a good person and I feel like I would be setting her up to fail. Ohio isn’t very forgiving to those who don’t pay their child support and rightfully so. Things were supposed to be more financially stable for me by this point but they aren’t quite yet. It’s so hard to know what the right thing to do is… At the same time, she chose this path and things certainly haven’t been easy for myself or the kids. Thanks Kim. . I need to think. . . .

tannawings
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tannawings

It’s been time to get this done…. and it really is to your benefit. Even though your wife isnt there, until things are final she is there finacially. Her income is counting aganst anything you are applying for, and until she is ‘off the books’ so to say, this year she will have every right to claim the kids on any forms. It will also be to your benefit to get this done as she will then pay some much needed child support (and yes, people on disabilty DO pay the minimum at leaast in our state) Until this is… Read more »

Rob Gorski
Admin

It’s a closure thing for me. Getting it done is important and I know that. Financially, nothing is going to change because she has no income and so there’s never going to be child support. She wanted a clean break and that’s what she’s getting. I’m not happy about it but at the end of the day, I have my kids and that’s truly all I care about. Child support would certainly help but when Guardian Locate launches, I’ll be doing much better. It’s cleaner and simpler this way because it wouldn’t make sense to pay alimony to her only… Read more »

Kim Gebhardt
Guest
Kim Gebhardt

Why would you have to pay alimony to her? You have no appreciable income and she walked out. You might want to reconsider getting child support from her. I understand that she has no income now, but if she ever gets disability, then she would be able to help support her children.
Just something to think about.

Rob Gorski
Admin

Kim, that’s a good point. I like to think I’m a good person and I feel like I would be setting her up to fail. Ohio isn’t very forgiving to those who don’t pay their child support and rightfully so. Things were supposed to be more financially stable for me by this point but they aren’t quite yet. It’s so hard to know what the right thing to do is… At the same time, she chose this path and things certainly haven’t been easy for myself or the kids. Thanks Kim. . I need to think. . . .

Kim Gebhardt
Guest
Kim Gebhardt

I understand not wanting to set her up to fail, but if the payments are made directly to you (vs going through OCSE) then the State won’t know unless you tell them. This would still make it easy for you to get payment if she not only finds herself with income, but also if she somehow ends up with a lump sum of money, such as inheritance, settlement from a lawsuit, or even lottery winnings. If she were to end up with a chunk of money, then you could be repaid for all the support payments that she missed.

Kim Gebhardt
Guest
Kim Gebhardt

I understand not wanting to set her up to fail, but if the payments are made directly to you (vs going through OCSE) then the State won’t know unless you tell them. This would still make it easy for you to get payment if she not only finds herself with income, but also if she somehow ends up with a lump sum of money, such as inheritance, settlement from a lawsuit, or even lottery winnings. If she were to end up with a chunk of money, then you could be repaid for all the support payments that she missed.

Kim Gebhardt
Guest
Kim Gebhardt

I understand not wanting to set her up to fail, but if the payments are made directly to you (vs going through OCSE) then the State won’t know unless you tell them. This would still make it easy for you to get payment if she not only finds herself with income, but also if she somehow ends up with a lump sum of money, such as inheritance, settlement from a lawsuit, or even lottery winnings. If she were to end up with a chunk of money, then you could be repaid for all the support payments that she missed.

tannawings
Guest
tannawings

It’s been time to get this done…. and it really is to your benefit. Even though your wife isnt there, until things are final she is there finacially. Her income is counting aganst anything you are applying for, and until she is ‘off the books’ so to say, this year she will have every right to claim the kids on any forms. It will also be to your benefit to get this done as she will then pay some much needed child support (and yes, people on disabilty DO pay the minimum at leaast in our state) Until this is… Read more »

tannawings
Guest
tannawings

It’s been time to get this done…. and it really is to your benefit. Even though your wife isnt there, until things are final she is there finacially. Her income is counting aganst anything you are applying for, and until she is ‘off the books’ so to say, this year she will have every right to claim the kids on any forms. It will also be to your benefit to get this done as she will then pay some much needed child support (and yes, people on disabilty DO pay the minimum at leaast in our state) Until this is… Read more »

tannawings
Guest
tannawings

It’s been time to get this done…. and it really is to your benefit. Even though your wife isnt there, until things are final she is there finacially. Her income is counting aganst anything you are applying for, and until she is ‘off the books’ so to say, this year she will have every right to claim the kids on any forms. It will also be to your benefit to get this done as she will then pay some much needed child support (and yes, people on disabilty DO pay the minimum at leaast in our state) Until this is… Read more »

Rob Gorski
Guest
Rob Gorski

It’s a closure thing for me. Getting it done is important and I know that. Financially, nothing is going to change because she has no income and so there’s never going to be child support. She wanted a clean break and that’s what she’s getting. I’m not happy about it but at the end of the day, I have my kids and that’s truly all I care about. Child support would certainly help but when Guardian Locate launches, I’ll be doing much better. It’s cleaner and simpler this way because it wouldn’t make sense to pay alimony to her only… Read more »

Kim Gebhardt
Guest
Kim Gebhardt

Why would you have to pay alimony to her? You have no appreciable income and she walked out. You might want to reconsider getting child support from her. I understand that she has no income now, but if she ever gets disability, then she would be able to help support her children.
Just something to think about.

Rob Gorski
Guest
Rob Gorski

Kim, that’s a good point. I like to think I’m a good person and I feel like I would be setting her up to fail. Ohio isn’t very forgiving to those who don’t pay their child support and rightfully so. Things were supposed to be more financially stable for me by this point but they aren’t quite yet. It’s so hard to know what the right thing to do is… At the same time, she chose this path and things certainly haven’t been easy for myself or the kids. Thanks Kim. . I need to think. . . .

Kim Gebhardt
Guest
Kim Gebhardt

I understand not wanting to set her up to fail, but if the payments are made directly to you (vs going through OCSE) then the State won’t know unless you tell them. This would still make it easy for you to get payment if she not only finds herself with income, but also if she somehow ends up with a lump sum of money, such as inheritance, settlement from a lawsuit, or even lottery winnings. If she were to end up with a chunk of money, then you could be repaid for all the support payments that she missed.

DivorceForce
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Best to you moving forward. If you need support, please see The Divorce Community – http://www.divorceforce.com

Rob Gorski
Admin

Thank you

tannawings
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tannawings

It’s been time to get this done…. and it really is to your benefit. Even though your wife isnt there, until things are final she is there finacially. Her income is counting aganst anything you are applying for, and until she is ‘off the books’ so to say, this year she will have every right to claim the kids on any forms. It will also be to your benefit to get this done as she will then pay some much needed child support (and yes, people on disabilty DO pay the minimum at leaast in our state) Until this is… Read more »

Rob Gorski
Guest
Rob Gorski

It’s a closure thing for me. Getting it done is important and I know that. Financially, nothing is going to change because she has no income and so there’s never going to be child support. She wanted a clean break and that’s what she’s getting. I’m not happy about it but at the end of the day, I have my kids and that’s truly all I care about. Child support would certainly help but when Guardian Locate launches, I’ll be doing much better. It’s cleaner and simpler this way because it wouldn’t make sense to pay alimony to her only… Read more »

Kim Gebhardt
Guest
Kim Gebhardt

Why would you have to pay alimony to her? You have no appreciable income and she walked out. You might want to reconsider getting child support from her. I understand that she has no income now, but if she ever gets disability, then she would be able to help support her children.
Just something to think about.

Rob Gorski
Guest
Rob Gorski

Kim, that’s a good point. I like to think I’m a good person and I feel like I would be setting her up to fail. Ohio isn’t very forgiving to those who don’t pay their child support and rightfully so. Things were supposed to be more financially stable for me by this point but they aren’t quite yet. It’s so hard to know what the right thing to do is… At the same time, she chose this path and things certainly haven’t been easy for myself or the kids. Thanks Kim. . I need to think. . . .

Kim Gebhardt
Guest
Kim Gebhardt

I understand not wanting to set her up to fail, but if the payments are made directly to you (vs going through OCSE) then the State won’t know unless you tell them. This would still make it easy for you to get payment if she not only finds herself with income, but also if she somehow ends up with a lump sum of money, such as inheritance, settlement from a lawsuit, or even lottery winnings. If she were to end up with a chunk of money, then you could be repaid for all the support payments that she missed.

DivorceForce
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Best to you moving forward. If you need support, please see The Divorce Community – http://www.divorceforce.com

Rob Gorski
Admin

Thank you

DivorceForce
Guest

Best to you moving forward. If you need support, please see The Divorce Community – http://www.divorceforce.com

Rob Gorski
Admin

Thank you

DivorceForce
Guest

Best to you moving forward. If you need support, please see The Divorce Community – http://www.divorceforce.com

DivorceForce
Guest

Best to you moving forward. If you need support, please see The Divorce Community – http://www.divorceforce.com

DivorceForce
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DivorceForce

Best to you moving forward. If you need support, please see The Divorce Community – http://www.divorceforce.com

Rob Gorski
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Rob Gorski

Thank you

DivorceForce
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DivorceForce

Best to you moving forward. If you need support, please see The Divorce Community – http://www.divorceforce.com

Rob Gorski
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Rob Gorski

Thank you

tannawings
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tannawings

Set the child support payments up IN your divorce. I know you have a kind heart, but this has nothing to do wih you and everything to do wit your children. SHE IS responsible for her children. I know you dont like confrontation either, but this is business pure and simple. Do not give her an out. Dont think this can be verbal either- this has to be in writing. Will you have to pay alimony? No since your income is negligable. You are surving on a wing and a prayer… on disabiliity payments. There is no way you would… Read more »

tannawings
Guest
tannawings

Set the child support payments up IN your divorce. I know you have a kind heart, but this has nothing to do wih you and everything to do wit your children. SHE IS responsible for her children. I know you dont like confrontation either, but this is business pure and simple. Do not give her an out. Dont think this can be verbal either- this has to be in writing. Will you have to pay alimony? No since your income is negligable. You are surving on a wing and a prayer… on disabiliity payments. There is no way you would… Read more »

Rob Gorski
Admin

Truthfully, she’s not on disability but not for lack of trying. I totally agree with you in principle but this is a complicated situation and I can’t share those compilations. I’m trying to do what’s best but I feel like you’ve given me something to think about. I won’t say anything negative about my wife because she’s the mother of my kids. That being said, I harbor zero loyalty to her. Choosing the path I’m on right now was not done out of compassion. I have my reasons and they have nothing to do with her. While I wouldn’t to… Read more »

tannawings
Guest
tannawings

Set the child support payments up IN your divorce. I know you have a kind heart, but this has nothing to do wih you and everything to do wit your children. SHE IS responsible for her children. I know you dont like confrontation either, but this is business pure and simple. Do not give her an out. Dont think this can be verbal either- this has to be in writing. Will you have to pay alimony? No since your income is negligable. You are surving on a wing and a prayer… on disabiliity payments. There is no way you would… Read more »

tannawings
Guest
tannawings

Set the child support payments up IN your divorce. I know you have a kind heart, but this has nothing to do wih you and everything to do wit your children. SHE IS responsible for her children. I know you dont like confrontation either, but this is business pure and simple. Do not give her an out. Dont think this can be verbal either- this has to be in writing. Will you have to pay alimony? No since your income is negligable. You are surving on a wing and a prayer… on disabiliity payments. There is no way you would… Read more »

tannawings
Guest
tannawings

Set the child support payments up IN your divorce. I know you have a kind heart, but this has nothing to do wih you and everything to do wit your children. SHE IS responsible for her children. I know you dont like confrontation either, but this is business pure and simple. Do not give her an out. Dont think this can be verbal either- this has to be in writing. Will you have to pay alimony? No since your income is negligable. You are surving on a wing and a prayer… on disabiliity payments. There is no way you would… Read more »

Rob Gorski
Admin

Truthfully, she’s not on disability but not for lack of trying. I totally agree with you in principle but this is a complicated situation and I can’t share those compilations. I’m trying to do what’s best but I feel like you’ve given me something to think about. I won’t say anything negative about my wife because she’s the mother of my kids. That being said, I harbor zero loyalty to her. Choosing the path I’m on right now was not done out of compassion. I have my reasons and they have nothing to do with her. While I wouldn’t to… Read more »

tannawings
Guest
tannawings

Set the child support payments up IN your divorce. I know you have a kind heart, but this has nothing to do wih you and everything to do wit your children. SHE IS responsible for her children. I know you dont like confrontation either, but this is business pure and simple. Do not give her an out. Dont think this can be verbal either- this has to be in writing. Will you have to pay alimony? No since your income is negligable. You are surving on a wing and a prayer… on disabiliity payments. There is no way you would… Read more »

tannawings
Guest
tannawings

Set the child support payments up IN your divorce. I know you have a kind heart, but this has nothing to do wih you and everything to do wit your children. SHE IS responsible for her children. I know you dont like confrontation either, but this is business pure and simple. Do not give her an out. Dont think this can be verbal either- this has to be in writing. Will you have to pay alimony? No since your income is negligable. You are surving on a wing and a prayer… on disabiliity payments. There is no way you would… Read more »

tannawings
Guest
tannawings

Set the child support payments up IN your divorce. I know you have a kind heart, but this has nothing to do wih you and everything to do wit your children. SHE IS responsible for her children. I know you dont like confrontation either, but this is business pure and simple. Do not give her an out. Dont think this can be verbal either- this has to be in writing. Will you have to pay alimony? No since your income is negligable. You are surving on a wing and a prayer… on disabiliity payments. There is no way you would… Read more »

tannawings
Guest
tannawings

Set the child support payments up IN your divorce. I know you have a kind heart, but this has nothing to do wih you and everything to do wit your children. SHE IS responsible for her children. I know you dont like confrontation either, but this is business pure and simple. Do not give her an out. Dont think this can be verbal either- this has to be in writing. Will you have to pay alimony? No since your income is negligable. You are surving on a wing and a prayer… on disabiliity payments. There is no way you would… Read more »

Rob Gorski
Guest
Rob Gorski

Truthfully, she’s not on disability but not for lack of trying. I totally agree with you in principle but this is a complicated situation and I can’t share those compilations. I’m trying to do what’s best but I feel like you’ve given me something to think about. I won’t say anything negative about my wife because she’s the mother of my kids. That being said, I harbor zero loyalty to her. Choosing the path I’m on right now was not done out of compassion. I have my reasons and they have nothing to do with her. While I wouldn’t to… Read more »

tannawings
Guest
tannawings

Set the child support payments up IN your divorce. I know you have a kind heart, but this has nothing to do wih you and everything to do wit your children. SHE IS responsible for her children. I know you dont like confrontation either, but this is business pure and simple. Do not give her an out. Dont think this can be verbal either- this has to be in writing. Will you have to pay alimony? No since your income is negligable. You are surving on a wing and a prayer… on disabiliity payments. There is no way you would… Read more »

Rob Gorski
Guest
Rob Gorski

Truthfully, she’s not on disability but not for lack of trying. I totally agree with you in principle but this is a complicated situation and I can’t share those compilations. I’m trying to do what’s best but I feel like you’ve given me something to think about. I won’t say anything negative about my wife because she’s the mother of my kids. That being said, I harbor zero loyalty to her. Choosing the path I’m on right now was not done out of compassion. I have my reasons and they have nothing to do with her. While I wouldn’t to… Read more »