If you’re here to judge, keep moving and don’t let the door hit you in the ass on the way out



Let me start by saying that I’ve got no issues with a difference of opinion or a spirited debate.  I do have an issue with personal attacks on myself or my readers. 

We never have to agree on anything and I can still respect you for your opinion.  Be civil, respectful and treat people the way you would want to be treated. 



Yesterday I posted something about our water getting turned off.  The purpose of the post was not to create troll bait but instead to try and help others, using my current situation.

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The whole point was to show that shit happens. It’s not pleasant but no matter what, you have to keep your chin up, keep moving forward and don’t give in. 

Rather than take that as a positive post, some people feel the need to judge, ridicule and make assumptions that are ridiculously off base. 

Yes, I’m aware that I put myself out there and I don’t mind constructive criticism but judgement is something much different. 



The purpose of this blog is to provide comfort and support to the Autism community. 

My blog has gotten so big that I can realistically make a decent living through ad revenue, sponsored posts and leasing ad space.  Being able to help others while providing for my family is a perfect solution for a very complex problem.

I share the things I share because it’s what happens in my life.  My story has been vetted many times over the years and I’ve won tons of awards for my writing.  I’ve been internationally recognized for my contributions as well. 

Whether you get something from my efforts or not, many other do. 

While I don’t publicly share emails and messages, I get tons of emails from people telling me how I’ve impacted their lives in a positive way. 

It’s amazing how just knowing that you aren’t alone or that others are feeling the same way, can impact someone’s life. 

That’s what I’m trying to do. 

Please take my posts within the context they were written.  I’m happy to answer questions but if you’re just here to troll, do so elsewhere. 

I’ve only had to ban 3 people in the last 6 years because my readers are amazing. If anyone comes here to cause trouble or be disrespectful to others, you will be warned and then banned. 

Remember that you can help my efforts by donating, sharing my posts and by simply checking out my sponsors.  Everything helps to keep these services alive, whilst allowing me to provide for my family at the same time. 

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Braden
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So…you don’t want comments and discussion (to drive traffic?)

I won’t comment any longer if you are looking for a fan site, but don’t act like some of the comments made arent valid. You have posted some questionable and concerning things recently.

Rob Gorski
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Again, you’re missing the point. I love discussion and yes it drives traffic. At the same time, I can’t have my readers being disrespected by someone with questionable motives. Did you read this post before commenting because I’m not sure how to make my stance any clearer. I have no issues with questions. I’m happy to answer within the bounds of my comfort level, which is pretty liberal. I don’t care if you have a different opinion, you’re entitled to it. That being said, there’s something called tact and some people lack it. It’s not so much what someone has… Read more »
Mo
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If you could make a decent living your water wouldn’t be shut off now would it. I don’t know who you are trying to convince here. And another thing. How many times has your internet been turned off vs utilities and mortgage not getting paid? Seems you feel a greater responsibility to your ‘fans’ than you do your own children. You need a dose of reality Rob and the people you want to ban are giving it to you and that’s the real reason you want to ban them

Rob Gorski
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Again, you’re basing everything on assumptions. Assumptions are not based on fact but instead your personal opinions. I don’t care what you think because I bet you wouldn’t survive a day in my shoes. You’re welcome to leave your thoughtless, judgemental and arrogant comments but you bring nothing positive or constructive to the conversation. Frankly, it’s hard to even take comments like yours as anything other than trolling. Nothing you said was based on fact. You have no idea what my expenses are. Do you know how many people utility shutoffs happen too? They happen to a great many people.… Read more »
mo
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Your words I can realistically make a decent living through ad revenue, sponsored posts and leasing ad space. I guess a decent living varies between what you and I think. It’s not uncomfortable for me to read, it’s sad. Sad knowing those boys have to grow up like that along with all the other struggles they have. I have no doubt you love them, none. But you are not doing all you can to give them a better life as evident from your own words post after lossy after post. I’ve said it before. Your priorities seem to be out… Read more »
Rob Gorski
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Right now my idea of a decent living is different than yours. My priorities are out of whack and it really amazes me how someone, just as yourself, can sit I front of a screen and presume to tell me that I’m not doing all I can. That’s such an arrogant comment. Why don’t you ever comment on posts other than this kind of post? Where are you when there are things to celebrate and be proud of? All you do is focus on the things I’m not doing well enough or are unable to make better. There isn’t a… Read more »
Mo
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The thing that bothers me about you is that you do nothing different. Nothing. And then whine and ask people to help you out. Do you know why catholic charities turned you down? Do you? Because they believe that God helps those that help themselves. Tell me how many work from home jobs, besides this blog, have you tried? They do exist and they could put a little extra in your pocket and help you out. But you don’t. You do nothing. And I’m not the only one that only posts on these kids if things. In fact. It’s mostly… Read more »
Rob Gorski
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It’s interesting that you brought up Catholic Charities because I don’t remember mentioning that specifically..

Makes me wonder who you are behind that guest account… Hmmmm

For the record, the problem with Catholic Charities was that they only have certain funding streams for certain things and more people to help than they have funding for.

Kim Gebhardt
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Rob, not to stick my nose in, but you mentioned Catholic Charities a few weeks ago when talking about getting help to get the gas turned back on.

Rob Gorski
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You just couldn’t resist could you.. lol

I don’t remember that but that doesn’t really mean anything.. Thanks for pointing that out

Mo
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You may not have, but someone did and you said you had already tried that. I’m not anyone you know. Just a reader that came across your blog randomly from Missouri

Alyssa Rogers Williams
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Somehow I missed this blog post….. Mo….you just don’t get it. Sad. Extreme judgement is all you offer, and unless you have 3 extreme special needs kids like Rob does than you have zero right to judge. Sure you can ask concerned questions like many of us readers do, but you seem to want to skewer Rob or play “gotcha” with his words. Why are you reading? If it’s to learn about autism (that’s how I arrived due to a friend’s child’s diagnosis) then stay and learn……but if it’s to judge and cast aspersions , then go somewhere else to… Read more »
Rob Gorski
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That’s kinda how I feel. Whether it’s directed at me or anyone else in a difficult situation, armchair quarterbacking never works out and it’s almost never as easy or simple as you think it is. Well said and thank you for not only your support of me but also your friends family. 🙂

Kim Gebhardt
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Rob, I need to ask the question… if the blog has gotten so big that you can realistically make a decent living from it, then why aren’t you? Or were you speaking theoretically? I’m mostly asking because you mentioned last week that you were short on server fees for the month, so it would seem that the blog isn’t even paying for itself, much less making you a decent living. Color me confused.

Rob Gorski
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Right before Lizze left, Lost and Tired was ranked 27,000 in the world and 14,000 in the US. That’s out of over 1, 000,000,000 billion websites in the world. That’s pretty incredible for niche blog about Autism. I had just started selling ad space and some spots were selling for hundreds of dollars a month. I had just begun allowing the site to generate revenue after trying to put it off cause people hates ads. Shortly after that, Lizze left and I sorta fell apart for awhile. I stopped writing and simply taking 14 days off while I was thinking… Read more »
Jimmy Rock
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One of the challenges of writing a personal blog is the balancing act of preserving some privacy while at the same time providing enough information that keeps the everyday reader coming back. That’s not easy. I think in this blog’s case, that problem is compounded by the fact that the blog, in large part, is more of a stream of consciousness, “as it’s happening in real time” sort of endeavor rather than a carefully constructed, meticulously drafted series of pieces. That’s not a criticism, that’s just an observation as to the style of this blog as opposed to some others.… Read more »
Rob Gorski
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That was brilliantly put. I think you hit the nail on the head. I can take some responsibility for that because readers that followed me from Lost and Tired, probably know already that in some ways, this is like a personal journal for me. That’s how it helps me to process things. Sometimes it’s in real time, other times it’s sorta me going over things after the fact. I’ve been told that the reason so many people benefit from this is because of that writing style. It’s raw and real and sorta in the moment. I’d like to get back… Read more »
Philippa Connell
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Rob, I have a major complaint about the post about your water being cut off. It got ‘Bills’ by Lunchmoney Lewis stuck in my head. Seriously though, I think it’s brave to post what you do. I also think that it’s okay for the kids to go a few days without handy running water – I work for an energy provider and people these days act like the world will end if they have to find a way to function without a utility for a few days. Your kids will grow up hardier and more adaptable for a few things… Read more »
Rob Gorski
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Thank you.. I don’t think it’s a CPS issue or even traumatic for the kids. Yes, I failed to make the payment on time. Yes, sharing that opens me up to scrutiny. Here’s the thing. I can only control so much and when something like this happens, I try to make it a positive thing for the kids. There’s no running water to flush the toilet? Did you know that roughly a gallon of water, poured directly into the toilet bowl will make it flush? These are all things that they can use in their life and that’s what I… Read more »
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