This has to stop…..

Last night Emmett couldn’t fall asleep.  He tried for a couple of hours but he just couldn’t. 

Trying to improve my own schedule, I opted to take a and call it a night much earlier than I normally would. 

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This would not only help me but also help Emmett fall asleep. 

It worked great because both he and I were out in no time. 

Unfortunately, the one night I have a really good shot of getting some restful sleep, wakes up 3:30 am again and can’t go back to sleep. 

I ended up on the couch because Elliott wanted to try sleeping there to see if it would help. 

The rest of it is a sleepless blur….

I don’t know what the heck is going on with Elliott but he needs to sleep and I need him to sleep. 

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julh
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Maybe see if he can articulate anything at Patti’s this week? I’d be looking for strategies to help him identify his worries and pack them away for the night. Have they been introduced to Lizze’s new boyfriend? He may need a bit of stability and time away from her.

Rob Gorski
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Oh.. You missed that whole thing. Yeah, she decided to introduce them on Thanksgiving Day and used the word boyfriend. I had no clue this was happening until she ambushed me with it later on after the fact.

That’s definitely something that bothers but at this point, I don’t know if it’s just any one thing.

Kim Gebhardt
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That was an absolute dick move on her part and should have been discussed with you first.

Jimmy Rock
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If this is going too far astray please don’t feel compelled to respond, but since this door has already been opened a bit above… So Lizze has visitation which is required to be supervised by her parents, right? What is that supervision supposed to entail? I would assume that it is, in part, to protect your kids’ emotional well being. Introducing her boyfriend to your kids was more than just a “dick move” as so eloquently put above. It is irresponsible, selfish, and thoughtless at this point in time. If her visitation is supposed to be supervised, where was that… Read more »
Rob Gorski
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Look above for my response..

Alyssa Rogers Williams
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I am beyond being shocked anymore by her horrendous decision making. I don’t recall reading about this, we were traveling, I must have missed that particular post? I cannot think of this in any way but for what it is: callous, selfish, egotistical, self serving, self obsessed, hurtful & confusing (to the kids), and against what any counselor or therapist, or anyone with common sense would ever recommend a person doing, even with neurotypical kids. Another “all about me and my life” move. No -as Kim rightly nails it, an absolute dick move. Three fragile kids of her own whose… Read more »
Rob Gorski
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Look above for my response. I answered everyone at the same time.

Rob Gorski
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I think restless is a good way to describe it. If I move downstairs with him, the change seems to help him go back to sleep…

Rob Gorski
Member
I’ll address everyone at once. Yes, this was a total dick move. Thank you Kim for the label because that’s really well put. ☺ She decided it was time to introduce them to her boyfriend. I knew nothing about it until after the fact because she didn’t think I needed to know. This was of zero benefit to the kids and was only done because she wanted it to happen. Well as you all said, that was a dick move and I dealt with it. As for her parents supervising the visitations, they are doing the best they can. Lizze… Read more »
Kim Gebhardt
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Wait, she forbids you and her parents from interacting with one another, and you all allow it? That is letting the inmate run the asylum. You are the boys’ father, and her parents are in charge of supervising contact with their mother, I fail to see how you’re supposed to avoid speaking to them. I get that Lizze might be angry or upset at the 3 of you ignoring the rules that she has set up, but that’s her problem, mental illness or no. I’m not sure if your divorce is final yet, but once you have full custody of… Read more »
Rob Gorski
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Kim,

I don’t let her get away with anything and I certainly don’t allow myself to be compartmentalized. However, I don’t have to deal with her every single day either.

If I need to speak with anyone, I speak with them.

Kim Gebhardt
Member

Good. Please don’t let try to you or force boundaries that are not in the best interest of the boys.

Rob Gorski
Member

Thanks. It’s not really like that though. No one’s anyone, it’s just finding away to make things balance out.

Jimmy Rock
Member

It’s the understatement of the year to say that this is a tough situation. I do think that in her condition Lizze shouldn’t be able to unilaterally decide that she gets to control the information/communication flow. In your situation it partially defeats the purpose of the , particularly considering the fragile emotional states of your boys. But keep doing the best you can- it’s all you can do.

Alyssa Rogers Williams
Member
Thank you for explaining, I know it’s not the most pleasant topic. I cannot imagine the difficulties in this complex situation and I appreciate the clarification. But one thing really stands out here…. I think anyone would take issue with having the troublemaker who has shattered lives get to lay down any rules whatsoever. In this country you have a right to speak to whomever you like, especially your children’s grandparents, unless a court of law found otherwise. I agree with the others that it is not a great idea, nor precedent, in letting the person who cannot support themselves… Read more »
Rob Gorski
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I only have so much control and I have zero control over the decisions of others.

Believe me when I say it’s frustrating for me as well because it is. Right now, everyone’s walking in egg shells, which frankly, is bullshit but everyone’s got to survive.

I’m figuring things out but I can only do so much on my end.

I truly appreciate everyone’s concern and support. I mean that from the bottom of my heart.

julh
Member

I had an inkling this may have happened. I would offer a break from her. Just the stability of being with you constantly for 2-3 weeks may help him recover

mindfulmom
Member

We call that splitting. I am sorry Rob. A borderline mother/wife is not easy and you are right it is an illness.

Rob Gorski
Member

Thank you and we’ll said… ☺

Ellen Beck
Member
Yep a dick move, but not totally unexpected. She is married, yet has boyfriend. She is self centered and frankly acting inappropriately in front of the kids. She needs to wait until you are both legally divorced, and not have a ‘boyfriend’ . She needs to quit thinking of herself just for a few minutes. She hasnt even known this new man long enough to entrust him with her kids much less tell the boys she has a boyfriend. How completly ignorant and juvenile. I am sure her folks are doing the best they can under the circumstances and putting… Read more »
Rob Gorski
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I don’t disagree with you in most cases mentioned above but there is . I was there at the when she was diagnosed. Is that an excuse, no but it’s an explanation.

Thank You. I don’t have money or a lot of the things we need but I do have a plethora of patience… ☺

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