I know that I don’t owe anyone an explanation for anything. That’s not the motivation behind this post.
Based on some of the comments and questions I still receive, I feel the need to clarify a few things. This is a complex situation and so I’ll do this one more time.
For starters, you have to accept that you will not be privy to all of the information that you would like to have.
While it may appear to some that I’m hiding information, I’m not, at least not in the way some think I am.
There are things about the collapse of my marriage that simply aren’t for public consumption. This isn’t about protecting myself or the boys Mother. This has everything to do with protecting the boys from information that they don’t need to know at this point in time.
This blog is consumed by many people, including people outside of both families that have contact with the kids.
If the kids are to ever learn about these things, it will be in a controlled environment, from me or their therapist and not from some random person that reads the blog.
I’ve been very honset about everything that’s going on, save for those few details.
I have no problems sharing what I was told I did that led to the boys Mother choosing the path that she has. The details of the night she left can’t be shared without going to places I’ve said I wouldn’t, so I have to leave that alone.
That being said, the reasons she did the things she did and chose to leave are as follows.
1) I ignored her and did everything in my power to avoid even talking to her.
2) I spent way to much time working on Lost and Tired.
3) I spent too much time working on the GPS tracking project.
4) I never spent any time with her
5) I monopolized her doctors appointments
These are the main things that she said led her to make the decisions she did and do the things she did.
She’s entitled to feel the way she does and while I did spend a lot of time working on Lost and Tired, it shouldn’t have resulted in the destruction of my marriage, not by a long shot.
While I have never and will never even pretend to be perfect, I will say that part of why this hurt so badly was because everything I did was for her and the boys.
I was essentially caring for 3 kids and a wife with special needs. It wasn’t easy but I always felt it was worth it and never would have stopped.
This was so hard for me to accept because anyone that knew us in real life, has real life knowledge that I dedicated my entire self to her and the kids. That’s way everyone was so shocked when all this happened, including the family therapist.
Look, I’m far from perfect and like anyone else, I make mistakes. I completely own that and will never hide from it. I was always faithful, devoted and gave everything I had.