Why I purposely try to trick my son with #Autism



I know that trying to trick someone is generally considered to be mean or not nice.  Trying to trick a child with special needs sounds even worse. 

That being said, I do try to trick Gavin from time to time but there’s a very good reason for it. 

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Despite how it sounds, I’m actually doing it because I love him.  Despite how that sounds, it’s the truth.  Let me explain. 



Gavin is much lower functioning than his brothers.  He’s intelligent but absolutely lacks anything resembling common sense or an ability to read people. 

What this basically means is that Gavin can very easily be influenced and I fear that someone might try to take advantage of this. 

I’ve made it a point to try and approach him at random times and from various different angles.  My goal is to put him in a real life situation, while in a safe or controlled environment and see how he handle it. 



Sometimes I will approach him and act as though I’m angry about something I think he’s done. He is of course, completely innocent but I want him to stand up for himself. 

He used to just admit to doing whatever it was he’s been accused of doing.  That really made me nervous. 

Now he stands his ground more often.  He’ll say that he didn’t do something or he’ll admit to it if he’s actually guilty. 

It’s these types of things that I have been able to teach him by putting him in these types of situations.  Over the last year or so, he’s getting much harder to trick. 

He’s learning to recognize sarcasm and he’s getting better in the area of problem solving, real life situations. 

Yes, I do try and trick my son with Autism but it’s for good reason and it’s working to his benefit. 

Here’s an example of what I mean… 

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Kim Gebhardt

While I applaud your efforts to make sure Gavin is not a victim, is it awful that my first thought was that I need to know if the pizzas will be taxed? They would be taxed here so the $10 still wouldn’t be enough.

I have another question regarding Gavin… are any of his diagnoses genetic in nature? Did his father suffer from mental illnesses? From reading the blogs (particularly a letter Lizze wrote to him), I know he wasn’t a good guy, but do you think any of Gavin’s illness can be traced back to him?

Rob Gorski
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Actually, there’s no tax on the pizza. It’s $5 even. The answer to your other question is yes. Gavin’s biodad was not emotionally stable.

Truthfully, he’s got it on both sides of his family and everything he has is genetic in nature. That said, all his genetic testing has come back normal… Weird huh?

Kim Gebhardt
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Kim Gebhardt

That poor kid. I knew his biological father was a raging ass (and that’s me being nice), but I wasn’t sure if there was more to it. I seem to remember that biodad’s mother wasn’t much better. And I know you don’t know anything about Lizze’s biological father, but what about the mother? Gavin didn’t really stand a chance, did he? : (

Rob Gorski
Admin

Not a whole lot is known but what is known isn’t positive….. He really didn’t…but he’s doing better now than he ever has before..

Kim Gebhardt
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Kim Gebhardt

Is he able to work at all? A lot of the grocery stores here have people with special needs as baggers or to help gather carts. Is that something he would be able to do?

Rob Gorski
Admin

I honestly don’t know. Part of the problem would be health… My goal is to build a situation in which I can employ him… I’ve got some ideas and the GPS tracking thing is one of them. Although, that’s been hit with delays…

Kim Gebhardt
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Kim Gebhardt

That poor kid. I knew his biological father was a raging ass (and that’s me being nice), but I wasn’t sure if there was more to it. I seem to remember that biodad’s mother wasn’t much better. And I know you don’t know anything about Lizze’s biological father, but what about the mother? Gavin didn’t really stand a chance, did he? : (

Rob Gorski
Admin

Not a whole lot is known but what is known isn’t positive….. He really didn’t…but he’s doing better now than he ever has before..

Kim Gebhardt
Guest
Kim Gebhardt

Is he able to work at all? A lot of the grocery stores here have people with special needs as baggers or to help gather carts. Is that something he would be able to do?

Rob Gorski
Admin

I honestly don’t know. Part of the problem would be health… My goal is to build a situation in which I can employ him… I’ve got some ideas and the GPS tracking thing is one of them. Although, that’s been hit with delays…

Kim Gebhardt
Guest
Kim Gebhardt

That poor kid. I knew his biological father was a raging ass (and that’s me being nice), but I wasn’t sure if there was more to it. I seem to remember that biodad’s mother wasn’t much better. And I know you don’t know anything about Lizze’s biological father, but what about the mother? Gavin didn’t really stand a chance, did he? : (

Rob Gorski
Admin

Not a whole lot is known but what is known isn’t positive….. He really didn’t…but he’s doing better now than he ever has before..

Kim Gebhardt
Guest
Kim Gebhardt

Is he able to work at all? A lot of the grocery stores here have people with special needs as baggers or to help gather carts. Is that something he would be able to do?

Rob Gorski
Admin

I honestly don’t know. Part of the problem would be health… My goal is to build a situation in which I can employ him… I’ve got some ideas and the GPS tracking thing is one of them. Although, that’s been hit with delays…

Mo
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Mo

Parents trick their kids all the time. Santa, tooth fairy, Easter bunny. Tricking osnt always bad if there is a lesson.

Rob Gorski
Admin

MO,

I deleted your comment because I do have people of all ages coming here and I don’t want anyone learning that here..

Rob Gorski
Admin

It was nothing personal

Mo
Guest
Mo

Understood

Mo
Guest
Mo

Understood

Mo
Guest
Mo

Understood

Kim Gebhardt
Guest
Kim Gebhardt

While I applaud your efforts to make sure Gavin is not a victim, is it awful that my first thought was that I need to know if the pizzas will be taxed? They would be taxed here so the $10 still wouldn’t be enough.

I have another question regarding Gavin… are any of his diagnoses genetic in nature? Did his father suffer from mental illnesses? From reading the blogs (particularly a letter Lizze wrote to him), I know he wasn’t a good guy, but do you think any of Gavin’s illness can be traced back to him?

Rob Gorski
Admin

Actually, there’s no tax on the pizza. It’s $5 even. The answer to your other question is yes. Gavin’s biodad was not emotionally stable.

Truthfully, he’s got it on both sides of his family and everything he has is genetic in nature. That said, all his genetic testing has come back normal… Weird huh?

Kim Gebhardt
Guest
Kim Gebhardt

That poor kid. I knew his biological father was a raging ass (and that’s me being nice), but I wasn’t sure if there was more to it. I seem to remember that biodad’s mother wasn’t much better. And I know you don’t know anything about Lizze’s biological father, but what about the mother? Gavin didn’t really stand a chance, did he? : (

Rob Gorski
Admin

Not a whole lot is known but what is known isn’t positive….. He really didn’t…but he’s doing better now than he ever has before..

Kim Gebhardt
Guest
Kim Gebhardt

Is he able to work at all? A lot of the grocery stores here have people with special needs as baggers or to help gather carts. Is that something he would be able to do?

Rob Gorski
Admin

I honestly don’t know. Part of the problem would be health… My goal is to build a situation in which I can employ him… I’ve got some ideas and the GPS tracking thing is one of them. Although, that’s been hit with delays…

Kim Gebhardt
Guest
Kim Gebhardt

That poor kid. I knew his biological father was a raging ass (and that’s me being nice), but I wasn’t sure if there was more to it. I seem to remember that biodad’s mother wasn’t much better. And I know you don’t know anything about Lizze’s biological father, but what about the mother? Gavin didn’t really stand a chance, did he? : (

Rob Gorski
Admin

Not a whole lot is known but what is known isn’t positive….. He really didn’t…but he’s doing better now than he ever has before..

Kim Gebhardt
Guest
Kim Gebhardt

Is he able to work at all? A lot of the grocery stores here have people with special needs as baggers or to help gather carts. Is that something he would be able to do?

Rob Gorski
Admin

I honestly don’t know. Part of the problem would be health… My goal is to build a situation in which I can employ him… I’ve got some ideas and the GPS tracking thing is one of them. Although, that’s been hit with delays…

Kim Gebhardt
Guest
Kim Gebhardt

That poor kid. I knew his biological father was a raging ass (and that’s me being nice), but I wasn’t sure if there was more to it. I seem to remember that biodad’s mother wasn’t much better. And I know you don’t know anything about Lizze’s biological father, but what about the mother? Gavin didn’t really stand a chance, did he? : (

Rob Gorski
Admin

Not a whole lot is known but what is known isn’t positive….. He really didn’t…but he’s doing better now than he ever has before..

Kim Gebhardt
Guest
Kim Gebhardt

Is he able to work at all? A lot of the grocery stores here have people with special needs as baggers or to help gather carts. Is that something he would be able to do?

Rob Gorski
Admin

I honestly don’t know. Part of the problem would be health… My goal is to build a situation in which I can employ him… I’ve got some ideas and the GPS tracking thing is one of them. Although, that’s been hit with delays…

Kim Gebhardt
Guest
Kim Gebhardt

While I applaud your efforts to make sure Gavin is not a victim, is it awful that my first thought was that I need to know if the pizzas will be taxed? They would be taxed here so the $10 still wouldn’t be enough.

I have another question regarding Gavin… are any of his diagnoses genetic in nature? Did his father suffer from mental illnesses? From reading the blogs (particularly a letter Lizze wrote to him), I know he wasn’t a good guy, but do you think any of Gavin’s illness can be traced back to him?

Rob Gorski
Admin

Actually, there’s no tax on the pizza. It’s $5 even. The answer to your other question is yes. Gavin’s biodad was not emotionally stable.

Truthfully, he’s got it on both sides of his family and everything he has is genetic in nature. That said, all his genetic testing has come back normal… Weird huh?

Kim Gebhardt
Guest
Kim Gebhardt

That poor kid. I knew his biological father was a raging ass (and that’s me being nice), but I wasn’t sure if there was more to it. I seem to remember that biodad’s mother wasn’t much better. And I know you don’t know anything about Lizze’s biological father, but what about the mother? Gavin didn’t really stand a chance, did he? : (

Rob Gorski
Admin

Not a whole lot is known but what is known isn’t positive….. He really didn’t…but he’s doing better now than he ever has before..

Kim Gebhardt
Guest
Kim Gebhardt

Is he able to work at all? A lot of the grocery stores here have people with special needs as baggers or to help gather carts. Is that something he would be able to do?

Rob Gorski
Admin

I honestly don’t know. Part of the problem would be health… My goal is to build a situation in which I can employ him… I’ve got some ideas and the GPS tracking thing is one of them. Although, that’s been hit with delays…

Kim Gebhardt
Guest
Kim Gebhardt

Did something happen to Guardian Locate? What is delaying it?

Regarding Gavin’s health, is the compromised immune system the main concern or is it something else? I remember he used to have autonomic crises (?) but don’t recall reading much about that lately. Is it under better control?

Rob Gorski
Admin

Nothing happened to Guardian Locate. There’s always things coming up that need to be addressed. It’s a long process.

As far as Gavin’s health is concerned, it’s both emotional and physical that worries me. The compromised immune system is being treated. The autonomic stuff hasn’t been a huge issue as of late but I think that’s because he’s kit under the constant stress he was under before.

Kim Gebhardt
Guest
Kim Gebhardt

Did something happen to Guardian Locate? What is delaying it?

Regarding Gavin’s health, is the compromised immune system the main concern or is it something else? I remember he used to have autonomic crises (?) but don’t recall reading much about that lately. Is it under better control?

Rob Gorski
Admin

Nothing happened to Guardian Locate. There’s always things coming up that need to be addressed. It’s a long process.

As far as Gavin’s health is concerned, it’s both emotional and physical that worries me. The compromised immune system is being treated. The autonomic stuff hasn’t been a huge issue as of late but I think that’s because he’s kit under the constant stress he was under before.

Mo
Guest
Mo

Parents trick their kids all the time. Santa, tooth fairy, Easter bunny. Tricking osnt always bad if there is a lesson.

Mo
Guest
Mo

Parents trick their kids all the time. Santa, tooth fairy, Easter bunny. Tricking osnt always bad if there is a lesson.

Rob Gorski
Admin

MO,

I deleted your comment because I do have people of all ages coming here and I don’t want anyone learning that here..

Rob Gorski
Admin

It was nothing personal

Mo
Guest
Mo

Understood

Mo
Guest
Mo

Understood

Mo
Guest
Mo

Understood

Rob Gorski
Admin

MO,

I deleted your comment because I do have people of all ages coming here and I don’t want anyone learning that here..

Rob Gorski
Admin

It was nothing personal

Mo
Guest
Mo

Understood

MBee
Guest
MBee

I’m not completely distracted by trying to remember if $5 pizza is taxed, tax-free, or tax-adjusted ($4.65 + 35c tax)
Because in my state, fast food is taxable…

Please go back to your productive conversation.

MBee
Guest
MBee

I’m not completely distracted by trying to remember if $5 pizza is taxed, tax-free, or tax-adjusted ($4.65 + 35c tax)
Because in my state, fast food is taxable…

Please go back to your productive conversation.

MBee
Guest
MBee

I’m not completely distracted by trying to remember if $5 pizza is taxed, tax-free, or tax-adjusted ($4.65 + 35c tax)
Because in my state, fast food is taxable…

Please go back to your productive conversation.

MBee
Guest
MBee

I’m not completely distracted by trying to remember if $5 pizza is taxed, tax-free, or tax-adjusted ($4.65 + 35c tax)
Because in my state, fast food is taxable…

Please go back to your productive conversation.

MBee
Guest
MBee

I’m not completely distracted by trying to remember if $5 pizza is taxed, tax-free, or tax-adjusted ($4.65 + 35c tax)
Because in my state, fast food is taxable…

Please go back to your productive conversation.

MBee
Guest
MBee

I’m not completely distracted by trying to remember if $5 pizza is taxed, tax-free, or tax-adjusted ($4.65 + 35c tax)
Because in my state, fast food is taxable…

Please go back to your productive conversation.

MBee
Guest
MBee

I’m not completely distracted by trying to remember if $5 pizza is taxed, tax-free, or tax-adjusted ($4.65 + 35c tax)
Because in my state, fast food is taxable…

Please go back to your productive conversation.