Update: This is posting late because it’s been a very difficult day and I didn’t get around to posting it after dinner.
We’ve been trying to put a therapy session together for them with their Mom but it just hasn’t come together yet.
The reason for this type of session is because the therapist and I want to facilitate a discussion between the boys and their Mom.
Since she left last year, she only sees them for about 48 hours a month, give or take. The reason are complicated but not something I have any control over.
The visitations haven’t been going so well for everyone, in particular Elliott and more recently Emmett.
Emmett’s getting tummy aches and Elliott simply doesn’t want to have contact with his Mom most of the time anymore.
At this point in time, the visits are in their best interest but these issues need to be worked out so the boys feel more comfortable and we can address their concerns. Hence the therapy sessions with their Mom.
I’m frustrated because I can only do so much and I can’t control the things that are causing the boys distress.
The idea behind this type of therapy session, which frankly shouldn’t be special because it should be happening on a more regular basis, at least in my opinion, is to facilitate a dialogue and provide the boys with a safe place to share how they feel with their Mom.
I’ve prepared the boys by letting them know she may be there tonight but I don’t know for sure.
Elliott doesn’t want to go, Gavin’s upset because he knows this will make Elliott upset and Emmett hasn’t said anything, one way or the other.
This whole thing has become something of a nightmare for myself and the boys.
Divorce isn’t easy and when kids are involved, it takes things to a whole new level. I’ve maintained what sanity I have left by excepting the fact that I can only control my own actions.
I have a fantastic relationship with my kids and I’m there for them every single day of their lives.
That’s all I have control over. That doesn’t mean I’m giving up on the rest but at the end of the day, there’s only so much I can do.