I hate having to be the bad guy every single morning



I dread getting up in the morning anymore.  I totally love my life and my kids but I truly hate the issues with getting Emmett to go to school.

It’s so incredibly heartbreaking to have to coerce Emmett into going to school. 

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I don’t use threats or really any type of force but I do talk him into doing something that he’s so upset about, his tummy hurts.



There is rarely a morning that goes by where he willingly goes to school. 

We have a standoff of sorts and I promise to check on him throughout the day, which I do.  The problem is that no one directly asks him if he’s okay when I call. 

The reason for that is because we are going by how he’s doing at school.  If we asked him, I can promise you he’d want to come home every single time. 



This is something that I’m really struggling to deal with in my own. 

Being a single parent means I have no backup and no one to tag if I need to walk away for a bit.  The school is helping in every way they can but I have to get him there in order to take advantage of that help.

Every single morning, I get to be the bad guy. 

I’m the one who has to make him go to school against his will.  Even though it’s the closest thing to being the right thing to do, it feels pretty shitty…..

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🙁 one of the little guys that I work with has been having bad mornings the last couple weeks but you know I think it will change. It’s a little unhappy phase he’s going through. Things will get better. Hopefully the same is true for you guys❤️

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🙁 one of the little guys that I work with has been having bad mornings the last couple weeks but you know I think it will change. It’s a little unhappy phase he’s going through. Things will get better. Hopefully the same is true for you guys❤️

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Suck it up buttercup. You are sending him to school because you want him to learn how to function in society despite his difficulties. The school isn’t asking because they know the answer and know he needs to be in school learning. Take their cue and stop asking. It sucks to have to do things we have to as parents but must be done. Mom’s of diabetic kids hate hurting their kids but if they don’t the kid dies. Mom’s of arthritic kids (that’s me) have to send their kids in achy sore on little sleep and with tiny aches… Read more »

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Suck it up buttercup. You are sending him to school because you want him to learn how to function in society despite his difficulties. The school isn’t asking because they know the answer and know he needs to be in school learning. Take their cue and stop asking. It sucks to have to do things we have to as parents but must be done. Mom’s of diabetic kids hate hurting their kids but if they don’t the kid dies. Mom’s of arthritic kids (that’s me) have to send their kids in achy sore on little sleep and with tiny aches… Read more »

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I think that, as a parent, you have to put this issue on autopilot. He’s going to school every day. Period. The end. Good morning, bad morning, whatever, his job is to go to school and your job is to make sure he does. Obviously if he’s sick or there’s some other pressing issue that’s one thing. But he doesn’t get to dictate it. If you think that his dreading of going to school is related to some ongoing issue at school, explore it. But keeping him home won’t solve that. Neither will worrying every morning over whether he wants… Read more »

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I think that, as a parent, you have to put this issue on autopilot. He’s going to school every day. Period. The end. Good morning, bad morning, whatever, his job is to go to school and your job is to make sure he does. Obviously if he’s sick or there’s some other pressing issue that’s one thing. But he doesn’t get to dictate it. If you think that his dreading of going to school is related to some ongoing issue at school, explore it. But keeping him home won’t solve that. Neither will worrying every morning over whether he wants… Read more »