I’ve been raising 3 boys with Autism and various other special needs, some very serious and others, not so much.
I get pissed off, frustrated, overwhelmed and even resentful when it comes to my kids at times. They can honestly drive me crazy.
Does that make them bad kids? Does the fact that I can feel these emotions towards them, somehow mean I love them less? Does this make me a bad parent? Again, not a chance in Hell!!!
If I talk about this stuff, will that make people think I have bad kids?
Here’s the truth. Who the hell cares!!!!!!
People are going to think what they want and you will never have any control over it. All that matters is what you know in your heart to be true. That’s easier said than done but it’s a lesson learned over many years of dealing with the public.
The bottom line is that you’re human. You’re going to feel things. It’s what you do with those feelings that matter.
I have made the choice to embrace those feelings for what they are, a reminder that I’m human and have limitations. It’s not healthy or productive to feel guilty about these emotions but we all do this.
The key here is to recognize your limits and work within them. If you need to put yourself in time out, do it. I know that sounds silly but I do it all the time. I also write down what I’m experiencing because it helps me to process those feelings, deal with them and then put them behind me.
Talking to someone is helpful as well.
The one thing you never want to do is take it out on your kids.
I know we don’t often have the help we need and rarely get breaks. The truth is that you’re so much better off walking out of the room for a few minutes and getting centered, rather than screaming, yelling or even worse, hitting your child.
I will say this until the day that I die. One of the toughest parts of being a special needs parent is dealing with all the emotions we experience on a daily basis. It’s no joke and it’s certainly not easy but it doesn’t have to be a bad thing. 😀