Today’s been a f*cking debacle and I’m wondering how you would handle this

The whole way home, Emmett is trying to process how his teachers could have lied. They’re teachers, and teachers shouldn’t lie. He’s not wrong, teachers shouldn’t lie, but I don’t think it’s that simple.

I explained to him that I’m not convinced that anyone was outright lying to me. I told him that I absolutely believe that he can trust his teachers and that I also understood from his perspective, why he doesn’t right now. I told him that I really think the big ussue here is that no one was on the same page and that’s a problem..

My opinion at this point is that Emmett’s teachers want what’s best for him and keeping him is school is obviously in his best interest. Emmett’s struggled a bit this year because of all the major changes in his life and has had lots of emotional tummy aches.

There’s no way for them to know the difference between him being sick or him being so distressed that he’s making himself sick. I can’t fault them for that.

When it comes to Emmett, school is his favorite place to be. He loves school and isn’t trying to get out of anything.

I need to make it very clear that I’m handling things this way for a very specific reason. When I make arrangements for them to physically ask Emmett if he’s doing okay, I need them to do just that. What ends up happening is that they see that Emmett is doing his work and not complaining about being sick, so they just report that he’s doing fine.

What they aren’t paying attention to is that Emmett will almost never complain about not feeling good, especially at school. The beginning of the school year was an exception because the kids had been traumatized and weren’t dealing well at all, not that anyone can blame them.

Autistic kids can be fickle. They tend to generalize everything. That’s a huge problem because in this particular situation, Emmett learned (not that I agree with him) that he can’t trust his teachers to do what they were supposed to do. The next time I try to get him to give it a good faith effort, he won’t because he’s going to assume that the same thing will happen again. It takes a shitload of work overcome and I’m not looking to deal with that at all.

I’m not angry. I’m frustrated and disappointed but I also know that it’s probably not as cut and dry as it sounds. That why a face to face with the school is a vital step towards getting everyone on the same page. Getting everyone on the same page is the only way that we will resolve this.

For now, Emmett is resting and I’m praying that tomorrow isn’t made to be more challenging as a result of today’s debacle.

I’m so tired and overwhelmed. .

Rob Gorski

Full time, work from home single Dad to my 3 amazing boys. Oh...and creator fo this blog. :-)