Sometimes school just isn’t as important

It’s a very big day for us in The Autism Dad household. Emmett is returning to school for the full day, starting today. At least that’s the plan.

I need to sit down and have a meeting with school because Emmett is barely hanging on and while he’s returning full time, it’s not going to take much to derail that. Emmett’s been in a very, very dark place and because of that, school has become incidental.

He’s absolutely buried in makeup work and he feels his teachers are disappointed in him.

I spoke with his therapist and I think the best approach for him to get back into the classroom full time is to forget the makeup work. Emmett has been an overachiever his entire life and received straight A’s or their equivalent since kindergarten. At this point, however, no one cares about his grades. I need to know what he physically needs to do to pass the school year.

Emmett’s incredibly fragile right now and I need to unburden him as much as possible. Next school year will be a fresh start.

I hate the idea of doing this but it’s unquestionably in Emmett’s best interests. He needs to be able to return to school with as close to a clean slate as possible and simply pass his classes, even with D’s.

We do whatever we must for our kids and sometimes, there are things that simply become more important than school.

Rob Gorski

Full time, work from home single Dad to my 3 amazing boys. Oh...and creator fo this blog. :-)
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When Henry started having bad fibromyalgia problems, he couldn’t get to school. In the end, he did makeup work AND the school gave him pass-fail grades. That was in a public Ohio middle school, albeit in 8th grade. Maybe teachers could look over his work and simplify it. As smart as Emmett is, he probably doesn’t need to do as many worksheets to get the basic stuff. Good


hopefully his teachers will work with you to make this easier

Curtis G.

I had to come to that same decision at one time in my son’s life. But I believe, in Emmett’s own time, he will overcome his present situation.


So Emmett hasn’t been doing the work at home after he leaves school in the morning? That doesn’t make sense, and if he had all of that work why would you pull them out of school for a week and add more work on top of that?


I’m sorry, I’m not trying to start anything. I just thought school was his place, where he was comfortable, I didn’t realize he had a traumatizing event here, I thought it was because of the separation. I guess I don’t understand, they seem to like going to and spending time with their mom, I just didn’t make the connection. Again not trying to start anything, just trying to understand. And maybe there is a bunch of backstory we just all don’t know