I’ll admit it, I’m guilty of this

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I’m trying to focus on the positive things we have going on right now. Admittedly, that’s not easy to do because the struggles are seriously overwhelming.

Gavin in particular, struggles quite a bit and it’s both insanely frustrating and utterly heartbreaking, all at the same time.

Trying to get Gavin to remember even simple one steps tasks is an uphill battle. It doesn’t matter how much I love him, it’s really, really frustrating because I have to micromanage his life.

Having said that, it’s really cool that I noticed this tonight and I wanted to share it with you all because it’s a perfect example of when I get so wrapped up in the struggle, I can miss the obvious victories.

It’s true that Gavin struggles tremendously with his memory. Most things are stored but he can’t recall them without significant prompting, both verbal and visual. Having said that, he may not be able to remember most things in his life but I’ll be dammed if he doesn’t always bring me a water when we see Dr. Pattie on Tuesday nights.

He always, always does this and I guess it never really occurred to me how much effort he puts into remembering to do this..

I was sorta taking it for granted because it didn’t seem like it was a huge deal. Perhaps in the grand scheme of things it’s not a huge deal but I think he needs to be commended for this. It’s quite kind of him to do this every week and it’s something I appreciate.

I snapped a picture of him handing me a water bottle tonight and thought I would share this. I hope it’s a reminder to everyone that victories come in all shapes and sizes. Don’t get so wrapped up in everything else that you miss the beautiful moments. I know I’m guilty of that and it’s something I’m really going to be working on.

Rob Gorski

Full time, work from home single Dad to my 3 amazing boys. Oh...and creator fo this blog. :-)
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Suzanne Buchko

Micromanaging someone else’s life is no picnic. I began the summer with the suggestion from a therapist to note my daughter’s accomplishments. I realized that I was overlooking progress in favor of what I wanted next steps to be. Stepping back to smell those roses has made for a good summer.

Cheers to you,
Julia’s mom


That’s really nice. And sweet too!