It’s been 365 days since my wife left and there’s still confusion and heartache



This post focuses purely on the emotional aspect to this major milestone in my life.  It’s not meant to be depressing but instead to provide insight into what I’ve been experiencing for the last year on very visceral level.
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I’ve thought long and hard about the coming of this day.  It’s 365 days in the making and I’m not totally sure how I feel about it. 

Today makes 365 days since my wife of 12 years walked away for a new life. 

The worst day of my life occurred 365 days ago today. I’m sorta big on anniversary dates because they’re milestones and this is an enormous milestone for me.

As I’m writing this post, I have my youngest sleeping next to me.  He doesn’t sleep by himself anymore and hasn’t for the last 365 days.

I’m really nervous about today because I don’t know how it’s going to hit me, if at all. Luckily I’m going to be really busy and won’t have much dead time to spend thinking. 



Trying to explain what it feels like for my best friend of over 15 years and the mother on my children, to just walk away one day is difficult.

I’ll just say that I don’t use the words worst day of my life lightly.

I’ve spent the last 365 days trying to understand what happened because I was completely blindsided. While I don’t discuss the details of what happened that night, it’s not to protect her.  I don’t want the kids reading about this some day.  If they ever need to know, I’ll explain it to the best of my ability. 

Going into the 365th day of my journey as a single parent is a big deal for me. 

While I don’t mind the boys seeing me emotional, I don’t want them to become anxious or upset because they see me upset today.

I’m going to keep myself as busy as I can, in order to avoid dead time. 

To be completely honest, my brain is scattered right now and my thoughts are equally jumbled as well. I think I’m going to end this post now because I can’t even finish my thoughts. 

As a parting note,  I’m going into today with a positive attitude and I plan on doing my best to move past this. 

Good night everyone.  🙂

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meggyweg
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I have been reading your blog for years and I was not surprised to learn she had left you, but only because I know a lot of marriages involving special needs kids end in divorce. I may be just a reader of your blog (and hers) but I never saw any warning signs or indications that you were deficient as a husband. Quite the opposite in fact. I know I know nothing about it but unless you have grossly misrepresented the situation, what Lizze did seems cruel. To walk out like that with no attempt to fix whatever was bothering… Read more »
Rob Gorski
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Hey Meg 🙂 Yeah, no misrepresentation. By not sharing what happened, I’m trying to take the higher road and prevent my kids from ever knowing. I have no problems admitting my faults. I wasn’t perfect. I did the very best I could with the cards I was dealt. I was devoted and loved Lizze with all my heart. I never strayed from my marriage and did my best to cater to her every need. I don’t mind sharing what she said was the problem because that’s a reflection on me. What I won’t do is disclose some of the choices… Read more »
meggyweg
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This story reminds me very much of my parents’ divorce. Now, their marriage was terrible and this was obvious towards everyone. My mother was very abusive towards my father and to us kids — seven in all. She didn’t hit anyone, mind. She didn’t have to. We were all terrified of her tantrums. She was just bristling with rage all the time, at the smallest of things, and could change from a nice person to a screeching harpy in half a second. She’s still like that. I’m pretty sure she’s got borderline personality disorder; she has a lot of the… Read more »
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