My 16 Year Marriage Has Ended and I’m Devastated

I’m going to keep this very brief because I don’t feel very good and I really don’t want to talk about this.

I learned within the last week or so that my marriage of almost 16 years had ended. It was an absolute shock and I feel like I’m broken in ways that I can’t even began to explain. I don’t know that I will ever fully understand any of this, but it’s something I have no control over and I have no choice but to deal with it.

It should go without saying that this is a very difficult time, especially for the kids.

The kids will remain with me at home full-time and we will find a way to move forward. We have a hugely supportive family on both sides and for that I’m grateful. While I will not discuss this any further, I want to make one thing very, very clear.



I’m NOT asking for any advice or opinions. I DO NOT care what you think about this and I don’t want to hear about it. Please resist the urge to share your opinions with me. While this wasn’t my choice, it’s now our reality. I WILL NOT tolerate ANY negative comments in regards to our situation or ANYONE involved in it. ANYONE who does so will be PERMANENTLY BANNED from this site.

Please respect that I will not be answering any questions about what happened because it’s no one’s business. Frankly, I don’t understand much of this myself.

It’s a very difficult time for us and I will always welcome positive or supportive comments. Thank you for your understanding during this very difficult time.

The only changes to this blog or any of my efforts moving forward will be that our story will revolve around myself as a single parent and my kids. I will be keeping everything else the same. I’m going to be working on the podcast as well as some other advocacy efforts as I move forward.

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  1. Very, very sorry this happened. Sending you good energy.

    • Catherine A Robertson on August 16, 2019 at 12:46 pm
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    I just want to add my sympathy and also tell you I think you are one of the strongest and best people on the planet. I’ve been through something of what you’re going through and you are so much nobler. Hang in there!

    • Curtis G on August 15, 2019 at 1:46 pm
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    So sorry to hear about this. The only thing I can say is for you to know that we all understand your need for privacy at this time.

    1. Thank you Curtis.

    • Marcy on August 15, 2019 at 1:35 am
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    All the best to you and the children. Will be thinking of you all.

    • J. S. Miller on August 14, 2019 at 6:55 pm
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    Praying for you during this difficult time. The sun will shine again! ❤️☀️ Hang in there!

    • Sophie on August 14, 2019 at 6:49 pm
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    I’m so sorry to hear this. Just remember you got this. You did it before and can again. Love to you and your gorgeous boys.

    Can I ask how they are doing?

    1. Thanks Sophie. Of course. Gavin doesn’t really care one way or the other because he’s Gavin. Elliott and Emmett seem to be doing okay-ish but it’s been a very difficult couple of days. It’s going to take time but we’ll be okay. Thank you for asking

  2. You guys stayed together a long time under the circumstances and brought together a strong family.

    Best to you all.

    • Neil McDonald on August 14, 2019 at 5:35 pm
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    So sorry to hear this. Better days ahead. Take care Rob and family.

    • Lynda Mayol on August 14, 2019 at 5:28 pm
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    I’m so sorry to hear that.

    • Lynda on August 14, 2019 at 5:28 pm
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    I’m so sorry to hear that.

    • Helma van de Vondevoort on August 14, 2019 at 3:57 pm
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    Dear dear Rob, i want to wish you all the best and a lot of strenght. There is also a lot of readers who do not judge and who just wish the best for you and your family

    1. Thank you.

    • Cindy on August 14, 2019 at 3:49 pm
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    Oh Rob, so sorry to hear. Thinking this is a shock to all of your readers. I know there isn’t anything in the world I can say to make this easier or better, but please know that your family is in my prayers.

    1. Thank you Cindy.

    • Diane on August 14, 2019 at 12:39 pm
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    Wishing the best for all of you. Life can be difficult.

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