I haven’t had the energy to talk about this but it’s become a significant problem and it’s something we are struggling with.
Elliott has struggled with anxiety for as long as we can remember. It’s one of his comorbid diagnoses to go along with Autism and ADHD. Elliott worries about everything and having Autism has made that much more impactful.
Like many kids on the Autism Spectrum, Elliott perseverates. That basically means that his brain puts thoughts on repeat and he literally can’t stop thinking about whatever that is. He’s always been this way. The truly unfortunate thing is that when those thoughts on repeat are about things that terrify him, like say, having bloodwork done or getting a shot, it’s simply too much for him to handle.
We’ve been working on this for years but haven’t found a way to help him work through this.
Unfortunately for Elliott and subsequently all of us as well, he needs to have bloodwork done. In order to do that, he needs to have his blood drawn.
He’s been able to avoid bloodwork for the past couple of years because it had been necessary. It’s now become necessary and to say that he isn’t coping well, would be the understatement of the century.
The plan was to have his labs done today while he and Emmett are having the ADHD meds check with the pediatrician. Elliott knew this because we won’t surprise him with it. Surprising him would not be a good thing because he would never trust us again. In some cases, it’s best to not say anything until the last possible second. That’s not the right approach with Elliott.
He was so upset Monday night that we decided to pull the plug on having it done today. It’s important but it’s not time sensitive. We thought that we could discuss this with Dr. Pattie and find a way to help Elliott through this without having to literally drag him to the lab.
Elliott’s been having nightmares and that’s only if he even sleeps at all. He’s even telling us he’s going to run away. He’s not going to run away and we have our house completely monitored by our Vivint Smart Home system, so he can’t go anywhere without us knowing anyway. Still, I’m making sure the system is armed because I’d rather be safe than sorry.
Poor kid. I’ve had lifelong anxiety although it dropped considerably since I went into menopause. I’m assuming Elliot is either taking something for anxiety OR can’t take anything due to his other meds. IOW, he has to be managed and it must be hard on all of you. UGH.