#Depression, #Autism Parenting and Turning 40 are not a good combination

As I mentioned in the previous post, there’s an enormous pink elephant in the room right now and it’s better known as my 40th birthday. I turn 40 years old on Thursday, August 24th and I’m struggling.

I just realized that I’ve been an Autism for almost half of my life. That’s a bit overwhelming to think about, so I just won’t. ☺

Let me begin by saying that I’ve decided not to discontinue my last remaining antidepressant right now because I’m concerned it might be a bad idea, especially due to the headspace I find myself in.

Turing 40 is supposed to be a big deal and it is in many ways. In other ways it’s just another day.

As it is, the fates, life and a few other things, outside of our control, have left us in a pretty bad place financially. I need these advertisers to come through because if they don’t, we’re in a world of hurt.

There’s an emotional hurdle some people have to overcome when they turn 40. I’m facing quite a few of those hurdles myself.

I was actually sorta looking forward to turning 40 at one point because we were in a pretty good place and my 40th birthday happens to coincide with the launch of the Note 9. I typically use my upgrade every year when the new Note is released and this year it was going to be a bit more special because it was happening on my birthday. Sorta took the sting out of it.

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I’m 68 and have a 35 year old son on the autism spectrum. Also retired from working with an agency as a resident counselor in a group home for young adults and adults with mental problems and mental disabilities. Trust me, right now reaching 40 seems like an undesirable age but very soon you will grow past that and not give it a thought. I went through that at 40 and at 68 now I’ve also wished I could go back to being 40 with what I know and have experienced with our son. It’s kind of a phase a… Read more »


You say you’re stressing out because the boys are excited and won’t understand if you don’t do anything and you don’t want them to feel bad. How about letting them be involved. Maybe Lizze and the boys could bake you a cake. The boys could make you homemade cards as those are always the best! Have a cheap fun typical kids birthday meal like hot dogs and KD or homemade pizzas and everyone puts on their own toppings or something that the boys really enjoy. Watch a family favorite movie. I don’t think they’ll feel bad that you all don’t… Read more »

Lisa Bull

I turned 40 this year too. I have an almost 14 year old and an 11 year old that both have ASD. 40 is honestly no different to 39. Just take each day as it comes and look after yourself too x

Maria Hall

40 was hard. 50?…. I’d prefer not to discuss it thank you. I’m older than Big Bird, MTV and over recently learned a few other things I thought had been around longer. Happy birthday. You will be an autism dad, or a dad of any kind, most of your life unless you die young. Embrace it.


I’m sorry you’re struggling to not be depressed. Honestly, I would love to go back and be 40 with what I know. Why wasn’t medical knowledge better developed then? I’m nearing 60 but not sure if it will be depressing yet. I do hope the very best for you though, Rob!