The struggles we face while raising a profoundly cognitively impaired adult son

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I was trying to not make a scene because Gavin had just sorta recovered from the meltdown he’d had a few minutes prior and I wasn’t looking to poke the bear. I told Gavin that I think he was due for a refill but he got very irritated that I would question his memory and because it wasn’t a huge deal, I dropped it. I didn’t want to set him off again.

Anyway, Gavin really, really likes these shakes and if he’s out because he wouldn’t cooperate, maybe missing a day or so would teach him a lesson. That’s the only way he really stands a chance of learning from this.

I have some major issues on my plate at the moment and my mind is not focused on Gavin’s Ensures, so I forgot to check for myself yesterday and that’s on me.

The moment I set foot into the kitchen this morning, I was greeted by Gavin. I was exhausted and barely standing up but he pummeled me with I only have 3 Ensures left, so you need to order me more.

It takes a great deal of patience to deal with Gavin on a good day and today was definitely not a good day. I was sleep deprived and running very low on patience. I told him that we’re only in this situation because he wouldn’t listen to me when I told him he was low while at his doctors appointment. Now we’re looking at sometime next week before they can be delivered. The weekend and the upcoming holiday may cause unwanted delays.

Like I said, I was lacking patience but I wasn’t a dick about it either. He was upset because he’d made a mistake and that lead to him banging his head into the wall, over and over again. I tried to calm him down by reminding that everyone makes mistakes and that no one is perfect.

Rob Gorski

Full time, work from home single Dad to my 3 amazing boys. Oh...and creator fo this blog. :-)
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I’m confused, are the Ensure drinks that Gavin drinks different from the ones you can get in the grocery store? Is there a reason why you can’t pick a few up to bridge the gap between now and when the pharmacy delivers his new cases?


That’s too bad. I don’t understand why it’s so complicated to get the drink. If it’s a prescription couldn’t it be sent to a nearby pharmacy and you pick it up? Also, that’s weird that Gavin remembered it so specifically and wrong. If he did have a surplus, wouldn’t a new prescription just be held until he used up the old?

We have lots of prescriptions so we are always going to the Walmart Pharmacy drive-through. But we don’t have the complexity of what Gavin apparently needs. Anyway he should be okay but it’s got to be a frustration.


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