I’m massively depressed and I need help

I’m not able to focus on work and without doing that, I can’t replace our car, which is now leaking gasoline or get my family to a safer neighborhood, where the kids can actually play outside.

I can’t focus at all anymore.

I end up fixated on my health, which is constantly improving and not bad at all. I know that but I worry anyway. I worry about not being here for my kids or my wife and it’s consuming.

I’ve made an appointment with my doctor for this morning and I’m going to be placed back on an antidepressant. I’m personally leaning towards Prozac for a number of reasons but I won’t start it until after I recover from surgery. That should only push things back a few days at most and by next week, I will be starting the new medication.

I’m not excited about this but at the same time, I’m hopefully looking at another 50 years and I can’t live like this. I can’t put my family through this either.

While I’m not excited, it does feel good to have a direction and maybe a light at he end of the tunnel. With any luck, that light won’t turn out to be a train…

If I’m feeling up to it, I’ll update you folks tomorrow but no promises. There’s a lot I have to get done before Friday, including making a fresh pot of bone broth so I have something healthy to eat while I recover. I also have to get about 5,000 steps in so I hit my minimum goal of 200,000 steps for the month before Friday. That’s the goal for the whole month and I’ll reach it about 10 days early because I’m afraid after Friday, I might not be in a place to get my walking done each day. I feel good having accomplished that..

So that’s where I stand at the moment. It’s not pretty but it’s my truth and I need to do what I need to do in order to get through this and get back on my feet. My needs more than I’m able to give them right now and that’s not okay. Taking care of myself means I can take better care of them.

Rob Gorski

Full time, work from home single Dad to my 3 amazing boys. Oh...and creator fo this blog. :-)
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Rob! Please don’t give into it! I don’t know what it’s like to be in your shoes, but as a fellow autism parent & blogger I can relate. Some days I feel like I can take on the world & then next thing you know I’m cleaning up an epic disaster at home & boom-I’m down again. My only advice to you is to continue to seek help. Family therapists are fab, but for depression you need to see a shrink. (I do & I’m not ashamed to admit it:)) Also, be aware that some (maybe all) pain meds that you may receive for your surgery will bring you down. Or UP then back down. Mood Swing Style. Not at all suggesting that you skip the meds…if they prescribe them then you need them…just know they can affect your depression!:) Best of Luck! I’m pulling for you.


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But i don’t understand why i’m depressed.


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❤️ I’m here for ya man. I have been fighting a daily battle with severe depression for almost 14 years


You need to see your doctor definitely and a therapist. Things really aren’t as bad as it may feel. I totally get worrying about being there for your child. I too worry. You have many people there for you, lean on them. I really hope things get better for you!

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Ernie the 3rd

Hang in there, Rob…. Sending love.

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Marni (Autism Mom)

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Thinking of you and praying for you.

Prayers that you are able to figure out what needs done for you.

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Alese Watson-Johnson

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You got it. If this helps I am on board.

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Annette Montez Kolda

Please get some tangible support to help you with your daily struggles. You can do this ❤️


I am sorry for how you are feeling….I have severe depression and anxiety and ADD and “possibly a bipolar trait.” I’m 46 and 4 months ago, I think we have finally gotten my meds down so that I don’t find myself at times feeling like i’m about to fall off a ledge. What helped me was finally finding a GOOD psychiatrist. he also has a son with Autism (I have 3 sons, two with autism, all three with anxiety) so he can identify with me with regards to how challenging and emotionally draining it can be. Additionally, I have been in recovery for alcoholism for 7 years. Sobriety has helped my depression and anxiety.
For me, all things mentioned are what help me stay stable emotionally and psychologically.
I hope you can find some long term relief from the downs……I know it sucks. hang in there!

Jenny Herman

You are absolutely right. Taking care of yourself helps you take better care of them.

It’s ok to take a break. I’ve found when there’s something major, sometimes you just have to ride the wave so to speak and be ok with not doing more than survival. Sometimes it seems like survival mode never ends. I don’t know if this will help you. In my experience, focusing on my breathing can help me calm. And if that’s all you do today to get to your big day tomorrow, that’s ok.

I also remind myself God is bigger than my stressful life. I will pray for strength for you to make it through today.


I can relate to a LOT of whar you just said. Remember that you are not alone.

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Please hold on.

Judi Laplante

Retweeting is not getting help. Do you have a therapist you can contact?

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