For that reason alone, she is now and forever will be my hero and command my respect. Nothing that has happened can undo all of the selfless sacrifice she’s made for them over the years.
I’m able to separate these things but right now, they aren’t and it’s something we’re working on. It’s like they approach this in a retroactive way. By that I mean, all they see is that she left twice and to them, it’s like that somehow erases all the good she’s done. I get where they’re coming from but it’s a very limiting perspective and my hope is, with time, they will be able to parse this a little better.
All three of the boys and their mother are all on the Autism Spectrum, so that makes this a bit more challenging to navigate. I’m very confident that we will get there and the kids will adjust to their new normal. I’m not saying it’ll be easy and I’m certain there will be obstacles or roadblocks along the way but we’ll get there.
After therapy, I took the kids to Burger King and we were then invited to meet some family for ice cream. I’m really trying not to stress eat but I just didn’t care tonight. On the positive side, both Elliott and Emmett tried new things. Trying new food is always a good thing.
This was a good way to sorta defuse any remaining tensions before getting them home and to bed. It all worked out. I feel like overall, it was a very positive session.
In the awesome news category, Emmett has completed his second full day back at school and shows no signs of giving up. He’s doing awesome and I’m so stinking proud of him. I’m proud of Elliott for continuing to do awesome at school, despite all he’s dealing with as well.
I’m always proud of my kids and Gavin is no exception. He’s doing pretty well and he’s also been a huge help around the house. Gavin’s even helping out with laundry and that’s honestly a huge help. I know that I can get frustrated with him at times but this kid gives his all, all the time. It’s hard not to be proud him.
If you are new to this blog or don’t know me very well, you should know that I’m a Dad who thinks his kids are the most amazing humans on the face of the Earth. Everytime I say I couldn’t be prouder of my boys, they always find a way to prove me wrong.
I’m going to bed tonight emotionally drained but feeling hopeful.
Even going through the emotional pain you are dealing with, you still find it within yourself to be a fair man and not let negative emotions define who you are as a person. Very commendable and shows your great character as a human being. Also, more credit to Emmett and also to Gavin And Elliot for being there for you and helping out in the house and with your life, even with the emotional feelings and sometimes frustration that often accompanies autism. What people who don’t walk in our shoes sometimes don’t understand is that what some non autistic caretaker parents see as small milestones in their children are huge milestones in ours when they accomplish something that we may have never expected them to accomplish. As always, good luck and fortune and continued better times for you and your sons.