The boys are getting incredibly anxious about seeing their mom tomorrow. It’s been about 2.5 months since they’ve seen her in person. This has been by design and out of necessity because of the COVID19 pandemic. Lizze and I discussed this when we first went on lockdown and we agreed that the safety of the kids had to come first.
Gavin is immunocompromised and there are people in her house who are at high risk as well. We needed to protect those who cannot protect themselves. This isn’t her being an absent parent or me withholding the kids. We chose this particular path because we believe it’s ultimately in the kids best interest.
We didn’t start this sooner because for it to work, everyone in the house must remain quarantined for 14 days and that isn’t possible when people are leaving the house.
Our situation is a little different because I have the kids fulltime and there are reasons for that. There is no visitation order as the divorce was paused because of the pandemic. I don’t know how this would work if court orders were involved. In our case, there is zero fighting and we’ve agreed on the terms already and aside from one court hearing where the judge will sign off on it, the courts will not be involved in anything. Neither of us wanted that because it really isn’t that hard for us to work together in regards to the kids.