Heartbreaking: Emmett had a really rough night

It’s horrible when your child is hungry, but because of things outside of their control, they find themselves unable to eat what’s available. It’s important to understand that this is not your typical picky eater. Kids like this will literally go hungry, rather than eat something that is sensory offensive. 

I digress… 

Unfortunately, this unplanned trip to the grocery store will be the last one we can make until I get paid at the end of next week. That’s going to make things very challenging for everyone. 

Before I left for the store, we tried to come up with ideas that would work for Emmett. He was able to help a little, but he was also completely overwhelmed. 

For whatever reason, Emmett wanted ham, and so I bought a medium-ish sized chunk of ham, which is really expensive. I don’t buy ham that often and I almost had a stroke when I saw the price. At the same time, if Emmett will eat it, that’s a major win, and well worth the unplanned expense. 

Thankfully, when I got home from the store, Emmett ate a big slice of ham that I heated up in the air fryer. 

I ended up spending the bulk of our buffer for the next week or so, and things will be really tight. That’s unfortunate, but the alternative is not acceptable. Emmett has to eat, and I’ll do whatever I have to, in order to ensure he does. 

There are going to be stressful days ahead because Emmett’s in a flare, and I’m going to be very limited financially. 

Having said that, Emmett’s eating, at least night. There’s more than enough ham for the next few days. I picked up some other things that he’s likely to at least try as well. 

The other positive thing that came out of this was getting to spend some one in one time with Elliott. He had asked to go with me to the grocery store, and I obviously said yes. It was nice to get to spend that little bit of time with him. We got to talk a little bit and it was the highlight of my day actually. 

Elliott’s going through a rough time but he was in a good place last night. 

As overwhelmed, frustrated, worried, and stressed out as I am, things could always be worse. Frankly, I feel blessed that I’m getting enough work to allow for me to make an unplanned run to the grocery store. It’s not perfect but I was able to do what needed to be done, and that feels good. 

Rob Gorski

Full time, work from home single Dad to my 3 amazing boys. Oh...and creator fo this blog. :-)
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kimmy gebhardt

If ham is a go-to for him then wait until whole hams or even ham steaks go on sale and freeze them. I buy whole hams, cook, slice, and freeze in individual portions. You can also make soup from the ham home and freeze that in individual portions by putting it in Ziploc freezer bags. Even if the kids won’t eat some of this stuff, it will make it easier for you to eat fresh food instead of frozen chicken patties. There are a lot of things that can be made in bulk and frozen which would certainly help with your food budget and your diet. I know you told me that what you eat isn’t really impacting your budget, but that really can’t be the case. If you are eating then you are part of the food budget- it really is as simple as that.

Rob Gorski

First of all, freezing is a great idea and I already buy quite a few. I didn’t know about the ham until he discovered that he will eat it outside of Easter. Yes, he’s weird about things like that. He would eat ham except for Easter.

I can buy some things in bulk but we have very limited freezer space. When I can, I need to invest in a freezer chest or something like that.

As for my diet, aside from fruit, I order SlimFast powder at the beginning of the month it’s roughly $20 for the month. I also use vegan protein powder, and that’s about the same. I usually eat one actual meal a day and so I’m not a huge drain on the pantry in that sense.

I meant that I wasn’t significantly impacting the budget. Of course, I have an impact, but I purposefully go out of my way to focus on things that are helping me lose weight while maintaining nutrition.

Excellent advice… ☺

PonyGirl

While I’m glad he found something to eat, it is kind of dishonest and a little angering that you are trying to insinuate his fever flares are the reason for being a little short in the budget this month/week. You have been fairly free spending the past few weeks it seems…

Rob Gorski

Wow.. Okay.

You can think what you want but you’re not in my shoes. Making a judgment like that is sorta arrogant.

The fever flare absolutely impact because when they hit, we have to make significant, and costly changes. I never blamed Emmett or his flare for the cash flow issue. I simply said the extra trip to grocery store was unplanned. Regardless of what you think, it has an impact. Sharing the impact is called transparency. You may not get it, but there are many others who do.

If you’re actually getting angry, I suggest you take a break from reading.

This is my life and the life of my family. I’m always open to comments like Kim’s above. These judgemental comments really serve no purpose.

As for freely spending money, we went to dinner as a family once, and a movie. Sometimes it’s nice to be able to do things that help us to provide a sense of normalcy.

I appreciate your opinion but I’m not looking for your approval.. Please have a great day. ☺

Ponygirl

I think any time you see my posts you already start reading in the negative and it isn’t supposed to be.

Of course the fever flare has an impact, on everything. but you said this unplanned trip drained you.

And I would offer advice like Kimmy up there but like I said, you always read everything I post in a negative light.

In fact I asked about the double money on fresh fruits and veggies with food assistance cards and you didn’t even acknowledge it.

I’m not really angry, it was just how I read it, that you were blaming the fever flare

And you’re right, I don’t get the going out to dinner and a movie, I mostly stay home. Crowds really bother me, normalcy for me is going to the park for a walk or out in the woods

Of course you don’t need my approval, I’m not here to give it.

PonyGirl

While I’m glad he found something to eat, it is kind of dishonest and a little angering that you are trying to insinuate his fever flares are the reason for being a little short in the budget this month/week. You have been fairly free spending the past few weeks it seems…

Rob Gorski

Wow.. Okay.

You can think what you want but you’re not in my shoes. Making a judgment like that is sorta arrogant.

The fever flare absolutely impact because when they hit, we have to make significant, and costly changes. I never blamed Emmett or his flare for the cash flow issue. I simply said the extra trip to grocery store was unplanned. Regardless of what you think, it has an impact. Sharing the impact is called transparency. You may not get it, but there are many others who do.

If you’re actually getting angry, I suggest you take a break from reading.

This is my life and the life of my family. I’m always open to comments like Kim’s above. These judgemental comments really serve no purpose.

As for freely spending money, we went to dinner as a family once, and a movie. Sometimes it’s nice to be able to do things that help us to provide a sense of normalcy.

I appreciate your opinion but I’m not looking for your approval.. Please have a great day. ☺

Ponygirl

I think any time you see my posts you already start reading in the negative and it isn’t supposed to be.

Of course the fever flare has an impact, on everything. but you said this unplanned trip drained you.

And I would offer advice like Kimmy up there but like I said, you always read everything I post in a negative light.

In fact I asked about the double money on fresh fruits and veggies with food assistance cards and you didn’t even acknowledge it.

I’m not really angry, it was just how I read it, that you were blaming the fever flare

And you’re right, I don’t get the going out to dinner and a movie, I mostly stay home. Crowds really bother me, normalcy for me is going to the park for a walk or out in the woods

Of course you don’t need my approval, I’m not here to give it.

kimmy gebhardt

If ham is a go-to for him then wait until whole hams or even ham steaks go on sale and freeze them. I buy whole hams, cook, slice, and freeze in individual portions. You can also make soup from the ham home and freeze that in individual portions by putting it in Ziploc freezer bags. Even if the kids won’t eat some of this stuff, it will make it easier for you to eat fresh food instead of frozen chicken patties. There are a lot of things that can be made in bulk and frozen which would certainly help with your food budget and your diet. I know you told me that what you eat isn’t really impacting your budget, but that really can’t be the case. If you are eating then you are part of the food budget- it really is as simple as that.

Rob Gorski

First of all, freezing is a great idea and I already buy quite a few. I didn’t know about the ham until he discovered that he will eat it outside of Easter. Yes, he’s weird about things like that. He would eat ham except for Easter.

I can buy some things in bulk but we have very limited freezer space. When I can, I need to invest in a freezer chest or something like that.

As for my diet, aside from fruit, I order SlimFast powder at the beginning of the month it’s roughly $20 for the month. I also use vegan protein powder, and that’s about the same. I usually eat one actual meal a day and so I’m not a huge drain on the pantry in that sense.

I meant that I wasn’t significantly impacting the budget. Of course, I have an impact, but I purposefully go out of my way to focus on things that are helping me lose weight while maintaining nutrition.

Excellent advice… ☺

PonyGirl

While I’m glad he found something to eat, it is kind of dishonest and a little angering that you are trying to insinuate his fever flares are the reason for being a little short in the budget this month/week. You have been fairly free spending the past few weeks it seems…

Rob Gorski

Wow.. Okay.

You can think what you want but you’re not in my shoes. Making a judgment like that is sorta arrogant.

The fever flare absolutely impact because when they hit, we have to make significant, and costly changes. I never blamed Emmett or his flare for the cash flow issue. I simply said the extra trip to grocery store was unplanned. Regardless of what you think, it has an impact. Sharing the impact is called transparency. You may not get it, but there are many others who do.

If you’re actually getting angry, I suggest you take a break from reading.

This is my life and the life of my family. I’m always open to comments like Kim’s above. These judgemental comments really serve no purpose.

As for freely spending money, we went to dinner as a family once, and a movie. Sometimes it’s nice to be able to do things that help us to provide a sense of normalcy.

I appreciate your opinion but I’m not looking for your approval.. Please have a great day. ☺

Ponygirl

I think any time you see my posts you already start reading in the negative and it isn’t supposed to be.

Of course the fever flare has an impact, on everything. but you said this unplanned trip drained you.

And I would offer advice like Kimmy up there but like I said, you always read everything I post in a negative light.

In fact I asked about the double money on fresh fruits and veggies with food assistance cards and you didn’t even acknowledge it.

I’m not really angry, it was just how I read it, that you were blaming the fever flare

And you’re right, I don’t get the going out to dinner and a movie, I mostly stay home. Crowds really bother me, normalcy for me is going to the park for a walk or out in the woods

Of course you don’t need my approval, I’m not here to give it.

Rob Gorski

I do like your new screen name. They say the four or fifth time is a charm. Perhaps you don’t realize how you come across, but it’s generally pretty judgemental. Perhaps you don’t mean it to come across that way, but it does. Making statements like you know my life or kids better than I do, will never be received well.

You’re always welcome to your opinion, but maybe ask yourself if it’s will benefit anyone by sharing it. Generally speaking, the above comment included, they don’t.

Like I said before, I’ll continue to let your comments stand, but please be a productive member of the conversation and think about how you say things before you submitt it.

I don’t need anyone to agree with me, but present your thoughts in a tactful, respectful way, and you’re likely to be taken more seriously.

kimmy gebhardt

If ham is a go-to for him then wait until whole hams or even ham steaks go on sale and freeze them. I buy whole hams, cook, slice, and freeze in individual portions. You can also make soup from the ham home and freeze that in individual portions by putting it in Ziploc freezer bags. Even if the kids won’t eat some of this stuff, it will make it easier for you to eat fresh food instead of frozen chicken patties. There are a lot of things that can be made in bulk and frozen which would certainly help with your food budget and your diet. I know you told me that what you eat isn’t really impacting your budget, but that really can’t be the case. If you are eating then you are part of the food budget- it really is as simple as that.

Rob Gorski

First of all, freezing is a great idea and I already buy quite a few. I didn’t know about the ham until he discovered that he will eat it outside of Easter. Yes, he’s weird about things like that. He would eat ham except for Easter.

I can buy some things in bulk but we have very limited freezer space. When I can, I need to invest in a freezer chest or something like that.

As for my diet, aside from fruit, I order SlimFast powder at the beginning of the month it’s roughly $20 for the month. I also use vegan protein powder, and that’s about the same. I usually eat one actual meal a day and so I’m not a huge drain on the pantry in that sense.

I meant that I wasn’t significantly impacting the budget. Of course, I have an impact, but I purposefully go out of my way to focus on things that are helping me lose weight while maintaining nutrition.

Excellent advice… ☺

kimmy gebhardt

If ham is a go-to for him then wait until whole hams or even ham steaks go on sale and freeze them. I buy whole hams, cook, slice, and freeze in individual portions. You can also make soup from the ham home and freeze that in individual portions by putting it in Ziploc freezer bags. Even if the kids won’t eat some of this stuff, it will make it easier for you to eat fresh food instead of frozen chicken patties. There are a lot of things that can be made in bulk and frozen which would certainly help with your food budget and your diet. I know you told me that what you eat isn’t really impacting your budget, but that really can’t be the case. If you are eating then you are part of the food budget- it really is as simple as that.

Rob Gorski

First of all, freezing is a great idea and I already buy quite a few. I didn’t know about the ham until he discovered that he will eat it outside of Easter. Yes, he’s weird about things like that. He would eat ham except for Easter.

I can buy some things in bulk but we have very limited freezer space. When I can, I need to invest in a freezer chest or something like that.

As for my diet, aside from fruit, I order SlimFast powder at the beginning of the month it’s roughly $20 for the month. I also use vegan protein powder, and that’s about the same. I usually eat one actual meal a day and so I’m not a huge drain on the pantry in that sense.

I meant that I wasn’t significantly impacting the budget. Of course, I have an impact, but I purposefully go out of my way to focus on things that are helping me lose weight while maintaining nutrition.

Excellent advice… ☺

PonyGirl

While I’m glad he found something to eat, it is kind of dishonest and a little angering that you are trying to insinuate his fever flares are the reason for being a little short in the budget this month/week. You have been fairly free spending the past few weeks it seems…

Rob Gorski

Wow.. Okay.

You can think what you want but you’re not in my shoes. Making a judgment like that is sorta arrogant.

The fever flare absolutely impact because when they hit, we have to make significant, and costly changes. I never blamed Emmett or his flare for the cash flow issue. I simply said the extra trip to grocery store was unplanned. Regardless of what you think, it has an impact. Sharing the impact is called transparency. You may not get it, but there are many others who do.

If you’re actually getting angry, I suggest you take a break from reading.

This is my life and the life of my family. I’m always open to comments like Kim’s above. These judgemental comments really serve no purpose.

As for freely spending money, we went to dinner as a family once, and a movie. Sometimes it’s nice to be able to do things that help us to provide a sense of normalcy.

I appreciate your opinion but I’m not looking for your approval.. Please have a great day. ☺

Ponygirl

I think any time you see my posts you already start reading in the negative and it isn’t supposed to be.

Of course the fever flare has an impact, on everything. but you said this unplanned trip drained you.

And I would offer advice like Kimmy up there but like I said, you always read everything I post in a negative light.

In fact I asked about the double money on fresh fruits and veggies with food assistance cards and you didn’t even acknowledge it.

I’m not really angry, it was just how I read it, that you were blaming the fever flare

And you’re right, I don’t get the going out to dinner and a movie, I mostly stay home. Crowds really bother me, normalcy for me is going to the park for a walk or out in the woods

Of course you don’t need my approval, I’m not here to give it.

kimmy gebhardt

If ham is a go-to for him then wait until whole hams or even ham steaks go on sale and freeze them. I buy whole hams, cook, slice, and freeze in individual portions. You can also make soup from the ham home and freeze that in individual portions by putting it in Ziploc freezer bags. Even if the kids won’t eat some of this stuff, it will make it easier for you to eat fresh food instead of frozen chicken patties. There are a lot of things that can be made in bulk and frozen which would certainly help with your food budget and your diet. I know you told me that what you eat isn’t really impacting your budget, but that really can’t be the case. If you are eating then you are part of the food budget- it really is as simple as that.

Rob Gorski

First of all, freezing is a great idea and I already buy quite a few. I didn’t know about the ham until he discovered that he will eat it outside of Easter. Yes, he’s weird about things like that. He would eat ham except for Easter.

I can buy some things in bulk but we have very limited freezer space. When I can, I need to invest in a freezer chest or something like that.

As for my diet, aside from fruit, I order SlimFast powder at the beginning of the month it’s roughly $20 for the month. I also use vegan protein powder, and that’s about the same. I usually eat one actual meal a day and so I’m not a huge drain on the pantry in that sense.

I meant that I wasn’t significantly impacting the budget. Of course, I have an impact, but I purposefully go out of my way to focus on things that are helping me lose weight while maintaining nutrition.

Excellent advice… ☺

PonyGirl

While I’m glad he found something to eat, it is kind of dishonest and a little angering that you are trying to insinuate his fever flares are the reason for being a little short in the budget this month/week. You have been fairly free spending the past few weeks it seems…

Rob Gorski

Wow.. Okay.

You can think what you want but you’re not in my shoes. Making a judgment like that is sorta arrogant.

The fever flare absolutely impact because when they hit, we have to make significant, and costly changes. I never blamed Emmett or his flare for the cash flow issue. I simply said the extra trip to grocery store was unplanned. Regardless of what you think, it has an impact. Sharing the impact is called transparency. You may not get it, but there are many others who do.

If you’re actually getting angry, I suggest you take a break from reading.

This is my life and the life of my family. I’m always open to comments like Kim’s above. These judgemental comments really serve no purpose.

As for freely spending money, we went to dinner as a family once, and a movie. Sometimes it’s nice to be able to do things that help us to provide a sense of normalcy.

I appreciate your opinion but I’m not looking for your approval.. Please have a great day. ☺

Ponygirl

I think any time you see my posts you already start reading in the negative and it isn’t supposed to be.

Of course the fever flare has an impact, on everything. but you said this unplanned trip drained you.

And I would offer advice like Kimmy up there but like I said, you always read everything I post in a negative light.

In fact I asked about the double money on fresh fruits and veggies with food assistance cards and you didn’t even acknowledge it.

I’m not really angry, it was just how I read it, that you were blaming the fever flare

And you’re right, I don’t get the going out to dinner and a movie, I mostly stay home. Crowds really bother me, normalcy for me is going to the park for a walk or out in the woods

Of course you don’t need my approval, I’m not here to give it.

kimmy gebhardt

If ham is a go-to for him then wait until whole hams or even ham steaks go on sale and freeze them. I buy whole hams, cook, slice, and freeze in individual portions. You can also make soup from the ham home and freeze that in individual portions by putting it in Ziploc freezer bags. Even if the kids won’t eat some of this stuff, it will make it easier for you to eat fresh food instead of frozen chicken patties. There are a lot of things that can be made in bulk and frozen which would certainly help with your food budget and your diet. I know you told me that what you eat isn’t really impacting your budget, but that really can’t be the case. If you are eating then you are part of the food budget- it really is as simple as that.

Rob Gorski

First of all, freezing is a great idea and I already buy quite a few. I didn’t know about the ham until he discovered that he will eat it outside of Easter. Yes, he’s weird about things like that. He would eat ham except for Easter.

I can buy some things in bulk but we have very limited freezer space. When I can, I need to invest in a freezer chest or something like that.

As for my diet, aside from fruit, I order SlimFast powder at the beginning of the month it’s roughly $20 for the month. I also use vegan protein powder, and that’s about the same. I usually eat one actual meal a day and so I’m not a huge drain on the pantry in that sense.

I meant that I wasn’t significantly impacting the budget. Of course, I have an impact, but I purposefully go out of my way to focus on things that are helping me lose weight while maintaining nutrition.

Excellent advice… ☺

PonyGirl

While I’m glad he found something to eat, it is kind of dishonest and a little angering that you are trying to insinuate his fever flares are the reason for being a little short in the budget this month/week. You have been fairly free spending the past few weeks it seems…

Rob Gorski

Wow.. Okay.

You can think what you want but you’re not in my shoes. Making a judgment like that is sorta arrogant.

The fever flare absolutely impact because when they hit, we have to make significant, and costly changes. I never blamed Emmett or his flare for the cash flow issue. I simply said the extra trip to grocery store was unplanned. Regardless of what you think, it has an impact. Sharing the impact is called transparency. You may not get it, but there are many others who do.

If you’re actually getting angry, I suggest you take a break from reading.

This is my life and the life of my family. I’m always open to comments like Kim’s above. These judgemental comments really serve no purpose.

As for freely spending money, we went to dinner as a family once, and a movie. Sometimes it’s nice to be able to do things that help us to provide a sense of normalcy.

I appreciate your opinion but I’m not looking for your approval.. Please have a great day. ☺

Ponygirl

I think any time you see my posts you already start reading in the negative and it isn’t supposed to be.

Of course the fever flare has an impact, on everything. but you said this unplanned trip drained you.

And I would offer advice like Kimmy up there but like I said, you always read everything I post in a negative light.

In fact I asked about the double money on fresh fruits and veggies with food assistance cards and you didn’t even acknowledge it.

I’m not really angry, it was just how I read it, that you were blaming the fever flare

And you’re right, I don’t get the going out to dinner and a movie, I mostly stay home. Crowds really bother me, normalcy for me is going to the park for a walk or out in the woods

Of course you don’t need my approval, I’m not here to give it.

Rob Gorski

I do like your new screen name. They say the four or fifth time is a charm. Perhaps you don’t realize how you come across, but it’s generally pretty judgemental. Perhaps you don’t mean it to come across that way, but it does. Making statements like you know my life or kids better than I do, will never be received well.

You’re always welcome to your opinion, but maybe ask yourself if it’s will benefit anyone by sharing it. Generally speaking, the above comment included, they don’t.

Like I said before, I’ll continue to let your comments stand, but please be a productive member of the conversation and think about how you say things before you submitt it.

I don’t need anyone to agree with me, but present your thoughts in a tactful, respectful way, and you’re likely to be taken more seriously.