Gavin’s behavioral problems will ultimately be the end of us getting a night off

Lizze’s Mom handles it the best she can but it’s not easy, especially with all three of them there. It’s not easy for us and we do it all the time.

Truthfully, the solution is to split up the visits. We’ve tried for years to break Gavin of these behaviors but it never sticks. I don’t think he means any harm by it and he actually probably thinks he’s helping.

As much as we need the break, it’s not fair to anyone to put them in this situation.

Lizze’s Mom is wise to suggest splitting up the visits. It sucks but it makes sense. Perhaps every once in awhile we can try to be totally childless and see how it goes but overall, splitting things up is the right thing to do.



It’s just one of those things that has always been a problem with Gavin but it’s become more of an issue as the boys have gotten older and begin push back.

It is what it is…

Lizze and I didn’t do anything spectacular tonight. Money is often a limiting factor for us and tonight was no exception. We did go walk the mall because it was raining and we’re going to try and transition to walking the mall when it’s too cold outside to walk.

We picked up a Little Ceasars pizza on the way home and caught up on some shows before bed. Super exciting right?

At the end of the day it was a break and we are so grateful to Lizze’s parents for helping us get said break tonight. 😀

A good night’s sleep is long overdue and with any luck, we’ll both be able to sleep in.

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  1. He can’t help it because of having autism and mental health problems.

    • It’s me on October 27, 2018 at 5:06 pm
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    Can I ask why it’s always Gavin and “the boys”? Not say Emmet and the boys or Elliot and the boys. It just strikes me as viewing they unequally. Not being critical just wondering…

    • Kim gebhardt on October 27, 2018 at 9:20 am
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    I’m wondering if there is a way that Gavin could go stay with Lizze’s parents for a while? I ask this because if you read back, you would see that you are blaming almost everything that happens on Gavin and it might be nice for you two to have a break from one another. I know he drives you crazy with his constant taking and I think it’s worn you down to a place where you can see only the negative about him. I would bet that you don’t even notice that you’re doing it because you’re too close to it, but as someone who is reading the stories you write, it appears that Gavin is the cause of everything that goes wrong. Some separation might do everyone some good.

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