We lost our car and I’m hanging on by a thread tonight

I don’t even know where to start. To say it’s been a rough day is an understatement. We had to say goodbye to a beloved family pet this afternoon. It was pretty awful and yet we haven’t even been able to face that before things got even worse.

Rest in Peace Lemme 😔 💔

I met with the boys therapist alone tonight because the kids were with my Mom. I had to deal with the vet and they weren’t going to be back in time to go to therapy. That’s how I ended up there alone. We used the time to discuss ways of helping the kids and figuring out how to move forward.

After that I was supposed to pick the kids up at my parents house.

When I arrived, my Dad pointed out that I had a flat tire. I looked and sure enough, he was right. It’s the same tire I had been nursing along for the last week or two. Until now it’d been a slow leak and I needed to fill the tire every couple of days. It had gotten worse because it was flat when I woke up this morning. I filled it and went on with our day, just like I’ve been doing recently.

I’ve been hunting for a used tire but this particual size is very difficult to find. I was trying to make things work until then.

My Dad and I were going to plug the tire before I headed home with the kids. To do that, we needed to swap cars in the driveway first. No big deal.

All I did was back the car out of their driveway and stop in the street in front of their house, waiting for my Dad to move the car. I had just put the car in park temporarily when I heard this whistling sound and the brake pedal went to the floor.

I had just blown a brake line and upon closer inspection, the other three brake lines were next. The car is no longer drivable and I don’t have any idea what I’m going to do. The car is officially dead and beyond repair. It will hauled off to the scrap yard in the next day or so.

This is the last thing I needed to happen. I’m now without a car and dead in the water. I was trying desperately to avoid this. I had been working on trying to replace the car before it died and when financing fell through at the last minute on what feels like a technicality, those plans went up in smoke. I’ve reapplied and I’m waiting to hear back.

It’s incredibly frustrating because it was approved but because I’m self-employed, the form of income verification accepted is three months of bank statements.

Rob Gorski

Full time, work from home single Dad to my 3 amazing boys. Oh...and creator fo this blog. :-)
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I’m sorry to hear what’s happened but I have to say I’m astounded your car was legally driveable. Do you have road worthy testing in the US??


Thanks for replying. Is public transport an option in the short term?


What a helluva day. Thank goodness it happened the way it did and noone was hurt. Could you parents or a family member co-sign a loan for you for now and then when you qualify on your own you could have their name removed?

Pinkie pie 443

You must be new to the autism dads story. His family would have to be brain dead to co-sign a loan for him. He has ruined his Uncle and Aunts credit by not paying his house mortgage on time. Rob likes to have the latest electronics and family movie nights and leave the bills until last. He has spent entire summers with no hot water because he couldn’t be bothered to pay the gas bill, yet somehow has internet and premium cable channels to watch on his enormous tv.


PinkiePie, I hope you’re not a parent, and if you are I’m guessing you’ve alienated your kids and are desperately jealous of the love and patience and energy and humility Rob has as he manages his family. There’s some f*cked up reason you’re following and criticizing someone you clearly don’t understand. But you’re just embarrassing yourself and revealing your own idiocy and misery.

Diane R Gorsline

Maybe a go fund me page?


Personally I believe that Lizze should be helping you with some sort of financial support. IMO you don’t just get to walk away from 3 children – two of them minors – and not assist with the everyday cost of raising those kids. Yes she has multiple disabilities – but so do her children, and at this point it’s obvious that you too have some physical as well as other issues. Surely she has some kind of social assistance, and as it seems she’s living comfortably with her family and not in financial need. Even $200 to $300 a month would enable you to obtain a reasonable vehicle so that you can continue to properly look after her children.


I agree. It seems unreasonable that all the burden is on Rob.


Is there anyone in your family who can loan you a car or drive you places temporarily? Maybe Lizze and her family could step up to help?