It wasn’t easy to hear this stuff again but she had a very simple conversation with the boys and at the end of the appointment, they felt better. This doesn’t fix anything because they are still hurt, angry and scared because their mom is still not coming home, but at least they aren’t blaming themselves anymore. That’s a big difference.
Sometimes when someone breaks a bone, it isn’t treated correctly at first and therfore doesn’t heal right. This can lead to loss of function and constant pain. In order to fix it, sometimes the bone needs to be rebroke in oder to heal correctly. It sucks and it hurts but it will eventually heal and you’re better for it in the long run. That’s kinda what we were dealing with, only instead of broken bones, it was broken hearts.
Like I said, this isn’t going to fix everything but I think that the kids can finally begin the healing process in a much, much healthier way.
I’m emotionally drained but if this helps the boys to move forward, it was worth it.
Divorce sucks, especially when it’s one sided but the most important thing we can do is make sure that the kids are shielded from as much as humanly possible. Autism can make it more challenging and more patience in required but the better the situation is handled, the better off the kids are going to be.
At this point, the kids seem to have accepted the answers they recieved and that’s a good thing because acceptance brings with it, peace. We desperately need more peace in our lives.
I’m really proud of everyone who partook in this very uncomfortable meeting because despite being worried about the fallout, we worked together and pulled it off. It kinda feels like a fresh start and who couldn’t use that?